"we need to cut our spending" no YOU need to cut YOUR spending
Me and my DH got married 3 years ago but we decided for the sake of fairness and avoiding issues with money and the kids, we would keep our money separate until all the kids are out of high school. We divide up the bills based on whose kids are here and how often they are here and the rest of the money, we are free to each spend how we want.We are very much a blended family in how we treat each other and the kids, it's just financially, I do for my kids, he does for his. I think it actually works out better because we don't fight about money or whose kids get what. Also, we knew we wouldn't have any children together so that wasn't going to be an issue
Well, DH's work told him that he will no longer be able to work overtime, meaning that his income will go from getting paid for 55 hours (works 50 and then 10 overtime are time and a half) to 40 hours. He has always worked overtime so yeah, it is going to greatly affect his income. He was going over things and said "we need to cut back on our spending" I looked at him and said "no, you are going to have to cut back on your spending". He was the one who first suggested keeping the money separate and I know it was because at the time, my ex was not very faithful in paying his child support and he didnt' want to end up paying for my kids at his own children's expense. I was fine with that because I would feel that same way. I mean if either of us lost our jobs and it was a matter of the kids not having stuff they needed, of course the other would step up but for wants, it is fine to do for our own.
He is bitching now because he thinks that he should get to pay for less of the bills around the house (not pay Internet, cable or netflix) because he says if he was on his own, he would cut those things out. The problem is the Internet and cable we are on contract for so he wouldn't be able to cut them and neither can I. Plus I pay the netflix already. He said that he shouldn't have to cut extras for his kids (paying for activities or giving them spending money)
I am really upset that now he wants to be more unified with our money now that he is having a harder time but it was fine back when I wasn't doing as well. Would anyone else be hurt by this?