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Has anyone ever been stalked?

Posted by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:13 PM
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Please bare with me, I will do my best with explaining this. 6 months a man who would be twice my age came up to me saying he's been watching me for so long and wanted to introduce himself, bare in mind this was at the grocery shop. Ok seemed harmless. Then he started popping up all the time, I would avoid eye contact and keep walking but he would always come back an tap me on the shoulder. Then it proceed to him popping out of no where and recognizing me from behind and rubbing me on the back and complimenting what I was wearing. So I started going on different days and times, hadn't seen him for a while then last week he pops up and tells me he wrote me a Christmas card and hung around everyday to give it to me. I said I'm married an this needs to stop. So as I'm leaving the shops he pokes me in my ribs demanding to know what's wrong with me and gave me a business bars claiming to be a councellor. I went home and called the police and their advice was be blunt an tell him to back off if he approaches you again. I also reported him with the business card and it turns out its fake, he's made them himself. So come Wednesday I'm grocery shopping with the kids, he comes over with the card, I tell him very blunt to leave me alone, I'm married and his behavior is not appropriate an I want to be left alone, he swears calls me names and tosses the card at me. The card said how he looks forward to seeing me, he waits for me, how beautiful my children are and asking me out for coffee. I reported this to the police. I get a call the next day from a friend who works at the store telling me he was there at 9 asking if she had seen me and making up lies for why he was looking for me, he went back at lunch time as well. The police tell me until I can ring them and identify him they can't do much. If anyone has been in a situation like this, how did you get it to stop?
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samanthastaatss
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:15 PM
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That's pretty fucking creepy.. I would have just started going to a different grocery store.

lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:17 PM
I have but all of the ones in my area are all basically right next to each other
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dsebastian23
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:25 PM

Yes, he left  a card on the gas station counter saying how he comes in everyday and wants me to call him at a certain time. That he really likes me and thinks im pretty. I was freaked out that entire night because I was by myself I was working thirds at that time.   I couldnt figure out who it was because we had tons of people who are regulars come in all the time...

lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:28 PM
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How it stop in the end? Did you ever report it?


Quoting dsebastian23:

Yes, he left  a card on the gas station counter saying how he comes in everyday and wants me to call him at a certain time. That he really likes me and thinks im pretty. I was freaked out that entire night because I was by myself I was working thirds at that time.   I couldnt figure out who it was because we had tons of people who are regulars come in all the time...


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by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:28 PM
That's creepy. The only thing that's happened to me like that was when I was a cashier. I was ...18, I think, and this man would come into the store I worked at. He would walk through the floral department and watch me through the bunches of flowers. It creeped me out, but I tried to dismiss it. One night he told me he was going to put me in the trunk of his car if I wasn't careful. My friend (a deputy) would come to my work and escort me to my car and come by randomly just to check in after the man told me that.
lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:30 PM
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Oh my god. I'm glad you had someone with you to help you. How did it stop?


Quoting Anonymous:

That's creepy. The only thing that's happened to me like that was when I was a cashier. I was ...18, I think, and this man would come into the store I worked at. He would walk through the floral department and watch me through the bunches of flowers. It creeped me out, but I tried to dismiss it. One night he told me he was going to put me in the trunk of his car if I wasn't careful. My friend (a deputy) would come to my work and escort me to my car and come by randomly just to check in after the man told me that.

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Bre
by Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:30 PM
I'm sure the store has in-store secrity next time I wld seek them out and report him even if you have to make a huge sean at a check out or CS desk! I wld be making a HUGE sean next time he approched me!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:33 PM
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I was, by an ex. It lasted 3 months and I ended up moving states. I really hope you can get away from this guy. Tell people you know about it, document stuff and let people know where you are always. It's a sucky way to live. But living is the idea.
mrsrodgers0703
by Ruby Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:34 PM
My ex boyfriend before dh stalked me for almost a year.
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rvb146
by Gold Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:35 PM
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Document the times and days that you see him. I'm assuming the grocery store has cameras. You have visual proof to back up your times. Tell your husband where you are going and when. Bring your husband shopping with you until this stops. Lock your doors and put up surveillance outside just to be sure. If he has the nerve to stay at the store waiting for you, this won't be far fetched. And do not be afraid to continue to call the police. Make a note of which officer you speak to when you call. Carry pepper spray! I hope he leaved you alone! I don't know what else would help :/

I know this will sound weird but try and speak with a councelor at a local mental health facility. They know more about people like him and they may be willing to help you come up with a solution to make him stop.
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