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Has anyone ever been stalked?

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Please bare with me, I will do my best with explaining this. 6 months a man who would be twice my age came up to me saying he's been watching me for so long and wanted to introduce himself, bare in mind this was at the grocery shop. Ok seemed harmless. Then he started popping up all the time, I would avoid eye contact and keep walking but he would always come back an tap me on the shoulder. Then it proceed to him popping out of no where and recognizing me from behind and rubbing me on the back and complimenting what I was wearing. So I started going on different days and times, hadn't seen him for a while then last week he pops up and tells me he wrote me a Christmas card and hung around everyday to give it to me. I said I'm married an this needs to stop. So as I'm leaving the shops he pokes me in my ribs demanding to know what's wrong with me and gave me a business bars claiming to be a councellor. I went home and called the police and their advice was be blunt an tell him to back off if he approaches you again. I also reported him with the business card and it turns out its fake, he's made them himself. So come Wednesday I'm grocery shopping with the kids, he comes over with the card, I tell him very blunt to leave me alone, I'm married and his behavior is not appropriate an I want to be left alone, he swears calls me names and tosses the card at me. The card said how he looks forward to seeing me, he waits for me, how beautiful my children are and asking me out for coffee. I reported this to the police. I get a call the next day from a friend who works at the store telling me he was there at 9 asking if she had seen me and making up lies for why he was looking for me, he went back at lunch time as well. The police tell me until I can ring them and identify him they can't do much. If anyone has been in a situation like this, how did you get it to stop?
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by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:13 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:35 PM
My former boss stalked me. I moved out of state.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:36 PM

I'd be armed and shoot his ass the next time he lays a finger on me.

Jessy613
by Diamond Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:37 PM


Quoting samanthastaatss:

That's pretty fucking creepy.. I would have just started going to a different grocery store.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:37 PM
I know he saw my friend at least once after the incident, so I'm assuming he knew I talked to someone about it and got intimidated. I don't really know.

Quoting lovelove211:

Oh my god. I'm glad you had someone with you to help you. How did it stop?




Quoting Anonymous:

That's creepy. The only thing that's happened to me like that was when I was a cashier. I was ...18, I think, and this man would come into the store I worked at. He would walk through the floral department and watch me through the bunches of flowers. It creeped me out, but I tried to dismiss it. One night he told me he was going to put me in the trunk of his car if I wasn't careful. My friend (a deputy) would come to my work and escort me to my car and come by randomly just to check in after the man told me that.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:40 PM
Yes a bank customer used to follow me everywhere, left me notes,peeking in my boyfriends house, etc. He even tried to tell my boss I was sexually harassing him. I was 18 and he was every day of 50! They didn't believe him, obviously. I tried to get a restraining order but wasn't able to because he wasn't threatening me. After about a year of his crap I just moved away.
NiceMom06
by Gold Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:41 PM
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i had a stalker, an ex. The cops did nothing. I had to move, get a new job and new number. I 'm so sorry this is happening to you. But you need to protect yourself and your kids from this freak. Be careful
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PhoenixMomof3
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:42 PM
Me too, an ex. I also was lucky and was moving out state. Weirdo.

After almost 7 years of not seeing him I ran into him at a festival this summer back in my home town... he came right up to me with that same freakish look and asked if I had missed him. I said, "Nope", and turned and walked away. It made me nervous cuz I just moved back to town but I am married now, thank goodness! Back then I was a single mom. Either way, I haven't seen him at all since that day.

The big thing I did... was move to Chicago. Its a big town, in a different state. I only told very close friends and family my info.


Quoting Anonymous:

I was, by an ex. It lasted 3 months and I ended up moving states. I really hope you can get away from this guy. Tell people you know about it, document stuff and let people know where you are always. It's a sucky way to live. But living is the idea.

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dsebastian23
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:49 PM

The store ended up being sold out to a foreign family and all employees were let go.    I kind of wondered if it wernt this man that came in a suit everyday...he asked me one day if I was single and if I wanted to be with him that I wouldnt have to work ever again......kinda creepy! I never expected it to be him at all. I didnt report it because of the store selling. I did tell my husband about it.

Quoting lovelove211:

How it stop in the end? Did you ever report it?


Quoting dsebastian23:

Yes, he left  a card on the gas station counter saying how he comes in everyday and wants me to call him at a certain time. That he really likes me and thinks im pretty. I was freaked out that entire night because I was by myself I was working thirds at that time.   I couldnt figure out who it was because we had tons of people who are regulars come in all the time...




lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:56 PM
I actually notified them after the incident and I was told to scream to scare him and notify them and they will get security


Quoting Bre:

I'm sure the store has in-store secrity next time I wld seek them out and report him even if you have to make a huge sean at a check out or CS desk! I wld be making a HUGE sean next time he approched me!

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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:57 PM
I know I've started looking in all directions when I'm out. I now carry a diary to document events


Quoting Anonymous:

I was, by an ex. It lasted 3 months and I ended up moving states. I really hope you can get away from this guy. Tell people you know about it, document stuff and let people know where you are always. It's a sucky way to live. But living is the idea.

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