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Has anyone ever been stalked?

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Please bare with me, I will do my best with explaining this. 6 months a man who would be twice my age came up to me saying he's been watching me for so long and wanted to introduce himself, bare in mind this was at the grocery shop. Ok seemed harmless. Then he started popping up all the time, I would avoid eye contact and keep walking but he would always come back an tap me on the shoulder. Then it proceed to him popping out of no where and recognizing me from behind and rubbing me on the back and complimenting what I was wearing. So I started going on different days and times, hadn't seen him for a while then last week he pops up and tells me he wrote me a Christmas card and hung around everyday to give it to me. I said I'm married an this needs to stop. So as I'm leaving the shops he pokes me in my ribs demanding to know what's wrong with me and gave me a business bars claiming to be a councellor. I went home and called the police and their advice was be blunt an tell him to back off if he approaches you again. I also reported him with the business card and it turns out its fake, he's made them himself. So come Wednesday I'm grocery shopping with the kids, he comes over with the card, I tell him very blunt to leave me alone, I'm married and his behavior is not appropriate an I want to be left alone, he swears calls me names and tosses the card at me. The card said how he looks forward to seeing me, he waits for me, how beautiful my children are and asking me out for coffee. I reported this to the police. I get a call the next day from a friend who works at the store telling me he was there at 9 asking if she had seen me and making up lies for why he was looking for me, he went back at lunch time as well. The police tell me until I can ring them and identify him they can't do much. If anyone has been in a situation like this, how did you get it to stop?
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by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:13 PM
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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:59 PM
I've recently started carrying a diary to document it. Dh is working next week so I'm thinking about asking my dad. Speaking to a counsellor is actually a very good idea, thank you


Quoting rvb146:

Document the times and days that you see him. I'm assuming the grocery store has cameras. You have visual proof to back up your times. Tell your husband where you are going and when. Bring your husband shopping with you until this stops. Lock your doors and put up surveillance outside just to be sure. If he has the nerve to stay at the store waiting for you, this won't be far fetched. And do not be afraid to continue to call the police. Make a note of which officer you speak to when you call. Carry pepper spray! I hope he leaved you alone! I don't know what else would help :/



I know this will sound weird but try and speak with a councelor at a local mental health facility. They know more about people like him and they may be willing to help you come up with a solution to make him stop.

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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:00 PM
I'm glad it ended. That's scary


Quoting Anonymous:

I know he saw my friend at least once after the incident, so I'm assuming he knew I talked to someone about it and got intimidated. I don't really know.



Quoting lovelove211:

Oh my god. I'm glad you had someone with you to help you. How did it stop?






Quoting Anonymous:

That's creepy. The only thing that's happened to me like that was when I was a cashier. I was ...18, I think, and this man would come into the store I worked at. He would walk through the floral department and watch me through the bunches of flowers. It creeped me out, but I tried to dismiss it. One night he told me he was going to put me in the trunk of his car if I wasn't careful. My friend (a deputy) would come to my work and escort me to my car and come by randomly just to check in after the man told me that.


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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:01 PM
Yeah it's ridiculous that you need to be threaten before you can get a restraining order. Obviously they are dangerous if they're stalking you


Quoting Anonymous:

Yes a bank customer used to follow me everywhere, left me notes,peeking in my boyfriends house, etc. He even tried to tell my boss I was sexually harassing him. I was 18 and he was every day of 50! They didn't believe him, obviously. I tried to get a restraining order but wasn't able to because he wasn't threatening me. After about a year of his crap I just moved away.

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Misheldonann
by Silver Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:01 PM
I would start shopping in the evening with dh.
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WesAndNicksMom
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:01 PM
I was. It stopped when he moved across the country. He was a friend before he got crazy and I knew I needed to stop being his friend when I found a box of my things in his apartment that he'd been slowly stealing for years. I can't tell you how many times I had to call the police on him. He told me once that he'd walked almost 100 miles to try to find me but he didn't have my address (for obvious reasons) so he went back home. I still kind of wonder if he'll pop back up again because he always does.
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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:02 PM
Yeah I wish the police could do more


Quoting NiceMom06:

i had a stalker, an ex. The cops did nothing. I had to move, get a new job and new number. I 'm so sorry this is happening to you. But you need to protect yourself and your kids from this freak. Be careful

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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:04 PM
I bet it was him and the creepy thing is this man has a creepy smile but yet he looks like a guy who would have a wife and a bunch of kids. It's creepy


Quoting dsebastian23:

The store ended up being sold out to a foreign family and all employees were let go.    I kind of wondered if it wernt this man that came in a suit everyday...he asked me one day if I was single and if I wanted to be with him that I wouldnt have to work ever again......kinda creepy! I never expected it to be him at all. I didnt report it because of the store selling. I did tell my husband about it.


Quoting lovelove211:

How it stop in the end? Did you ever report it?





Quoting dsebastian23:

Yes, he left  a card on the gas station counter saying how he comes in everyday and wants me to call him at a certain time. That he really likes me and thinks im pretty. I was freaked out that entire night because I was by myself I was working thirds at that time.   I couldnt figure out who it was because we had tons of people who are regulars come in all the time...







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elliem87
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:05 PM
Yes. I was in school for criminal justice and asked one of my teachers what I should do, she said document everything. When he would wait at work, say he say saw me driving on a busy street, leave notes on my car, drive past my school, he knew my schedule for school, and he would wait in his truck for me to go to work.
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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:05 PM
I'm wondering the same things as I don't know how this guy would know who I know at the store but yet he does. I'm starting to wonder if he takes pictures etc


Quoting WesAndNicksMom:

I was. It stopped when he moved across the country. He was a friend before he got crazy and I knew I needed to stop being his friend when I found a box of my things in his apartment that he'd been slowly stealing for years. I can't tell you how many times I had to call the police on him. He told me once that he'd walked almost 100 miles to try to find me but he didn't have my address (for obvious reasons) so he went back home. I still kind of wonder if he'll pop back up again because he always does.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:06 PM
It was very scary. The look he had in his eyes when he told me that still makes the hair on my neck stand up, and that was 7 years ago. I hope your creeper leaves you alone. Do you carry a weapon of any kind?

Quoting lovelove211:

I'm glad it ended. That's scary




Quoting Anonymous:

I know he saw my friend at least once after the incident, so I'm assuming he knew I talked to someone about it and got intimidated. I don't really know.





Quoting lovelove211:

Oh my god. I'm glad you had someone with you to help you. How did it stop?








Quoting Anonymous:

That's creepy. The only thing that's happened to me like that was when I was a cashier. I was ...18, I think, and this man would come into the store I worked at. He would walk through the floral department and watch me through the bunches of flowers. It creeped me out, but I tried to dismiss it. One night he told me he was going to put me in the trunk of his car if I wasn't careful. My friend (a deputy) would come to my work and escort me to my car and come by randomly just to check in after the man told me that.


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