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Has anyone ever been stalked?

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Please bare with me, I will do my best with explaining this. 6 months a man who would be twice my age came up to me saying he's been watching me for so long and wanted to introduce himself, bare in mind this was at the grocery shop. Ok seemed harmless. Then he started popping up all the time, I would avoid eye contact and keep walking but he would always come back an tap me on the shoulder. Then it proceed to him popping out of no where and recognizing me from behind and rubbing me on the back and complimenting what I was wearing. So I started going on different days and times, hadn't seen him for a while then last week he pops up and tells me he wrote me a Christmas card and hung around everyday to give it to me. I said I'm married an this needs to stop. So as I'm leaving the shops he pokes me in my ribs demanding to know what's wrong with me and gave me a business bars claiming to be a councellor. I went home and called the police and their advice was be blunt an tell him to back off if he approaches you again. I also reported him with the business card and it turns out its fake, he's made them himself. So come Wednesday I'm grocery shopping with the kids, he comes over with the card, I tell him very blunt to leave me alone, I'm married and his behavior is not appropriate an I want to be left alone, he swears calls me names and tosses the card at me. The card said how he looks forward to seeing me, he waits for me, how beautiful my children are and asking me out for coffee. I reported this to the police. I get a call the next day from a friend who works at the store telling me he was there at 9 asking if she had seen me and making up lies for why he was looking for me, he went back at lunch time as well. The police tell me until I can ring them and identify him they can't do much. If anyone has been in a situation like this, how did you get it to stop?
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by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:13 PM
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marinenonstop
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:46 PM
Ive actually been stalked a few times.. when i as 15 an older boy that was friends with my sister started stalking me. He actually tried to hide behind an empty garbage can when i saw him once. My sister told him to leave me alone..i told him to leave me alone.. my mom called his mom..nothing worked. My sister's bf started walking me to and from school and he finally did.

My ex husband was stalking me during our divorce process. He would call me from random payphones and threaten to kidnap our son. Would follow me everywhere..I had a restraining order against him so i called the cops and had him arrested. That's when it stopped.

My ex before dh stalked dh and i for a while. He stopped when dh threatened him.

If he comes up to you again..start screaming like no ones business and call the cops.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Jan. 20, 2013 at 12:00 AM
Several times, but there were two major ones. One was a guy twice my age who'd show up at the department store where I worked and watch me from behind pillars, or follow me around the mall on breaks. The other was older, too, he'd leave newspapers, flowers and notes on my doorstep. Both quit when I called the cops and they were apprehended.
laurag8707
by Bronze Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 12:12 AM

 Op: My advice would be one make it clear hey I do not want to be bothered. I would have store security kick him out and then walk you to your car and also I would avoid taking the kids shopping with you just in case he tries anything crazy. Another thing I would recommend is to change up your routine like how your driving home and stuff like that he could follow you you just never know.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 20, 2013 at 1:27 AM
If you don't like the idea of carrying a pistol, I would suggest something like a stun gun. Be careful and stay safe. That man sounds like a total creep.

Quoting lovelove211:

No I don't but I think ill start to




Quoting Anonymous:

It was very scary. The look he had in his eyes when he told me that still makes the hair on my neck stand up, and that was 7 years ago. I hope your creeper leaves you alone. Do you carry a weapon of any kind?





Quoting lovelove211:

I'm glad it ended. That's scary








Quoting Anonymous:

I know he saw my friend at least once after the incident, so I'm assuming he knew I talked to someone about it and got intimidated. I don't really know.









Quoting lovelove211:

Oh my god. I'm glad you had someone with you to help you. How did it stop?












Quoting Anonymous:

That's creepy. The only thing that's happened to me like that was when I was a cashier. I was ...18, I think, and this man would come into the store I worked at. He would walk through the floral department and watch me through the bunches of flowers. It creeped me out, but I tried to dismiss it. One night he told me he was going to put me in the trunk of his car if I wasn't careful. My friend (a deputy) would come to my work and escort me to my car and come by randomly just to check in after the man told me that.



WesternNYmom
by Gold Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 1:44 AM

When I worked as a cashier at a local supermarket, there was this really creepy customer who used to come in about 30mins before the store closed every night.  He would watch all the female cashiers work while pretending to browse the store, and then purchase small items like candy, gum, or packs of cigaretts just before closing.  The guy was probably a little older than my father, and he was really creepy looking.  The first time he came through my checkout lane, he started asking me personal questions about my age, where I went to high school,  and if I still lived at home with my parents.  Each time I would see him the questions and comments made me more and more uncomfortable. He would  make comments about certain parts of my body, and ask me if I had a boyfriend.  He would follow me to the office when I would go to turn in my register drawer, and then I would see him when I walked out of the break room after clocking out.  The scariest part was when I would spot him in his vehicle watching me walk to my car.  I was so creeped out by him that I would ask one of the stock clerks if they could accompany me to my car. When I told them why, they agreed.  Eventually, the creep stopped coming into the store.  I was later told by a coworker that the night manager had banned him from the store, and warned him that if he ever came near the store or the emplyees that he would call the police.  I was not the only female cashier who was bothered by this creep.  Thankfully, I never encountered him again.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Jan. 20, 2013 at 1:49 AM

Unfortunately people like that don't ever stop until they find someone else to obsess over, and the police will tell you they can't do anything until he physically acosts you or breaks the law (trespassing at your home etc). Make sure you call the police every time he approaches you, and the people he is looking for you from report it as well. If the store has a policy on  harassing customers, then I would tell them he is making you uncomfortable and needs to leave you alone and ask them if they can make him leave. Call police or have a worker there call the police while he is still in the store so they know what he looks like or at least be able to describe him well. Keep a close eye on what he may drive or is wearing, and make sure he DOES NOT follow you home. People like that could be dangerous, and often turn violent if reality slaps them in the face. PAY ATTENTION to your surroundings, biggest thing I can stress. I was stalked for a over a decade...I had to move away to get him to leave me alone and even then he didn't, he still found me on FB and Myspace and wrote my sons father....it was odd. Then when i went home for 3 months while my husband was deployed I was at the casino with my MIL and my BFF and HE WAS THERE! and not just, it was a casino and he was there, but there as in walking by a lot and giving me creepy looks til my BFF yelled at him to leave me alone and went to get security. I tried to ignore him. You may end up having to move if he doesn't quit. Be very very careful and aware and try not to aknowledge him other than to tell him to leave you alone...like your doing now. Do it calmy...not abrasively. You may need to carry mase or something to protect yourself with. Good luck hun and be safe!

lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 4:17 AM
Wow, that's crazy! I'm so glad you're okay


Quoting Anonymous:

When I was in the 6th grade a 16yo guy (a friends brother) stalked me... He would sneak into our house when no one was home, steal my panties, pics, and eat our food..

The only reason he got caught was because a cop seen him walking on a main road during school hours & stopped him. He had one of my dads guns on him. He told the cop a huge story about my dad being a drug dealer & he let us date & all this crazy shit..

He had to go to bootcamp or something. When he got out, he came to my house when I was home alone & just said hi & that he was out. I was scared shitless. Thankfully he easily left when another friend came walking up my driveway..

I never seen him again.


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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 4:18 AM
Hopefully that may be enough to scare him


Quoting elliem87:

Luckily I was quitting that job and about to graduate when was getting to that point. Document everything. Tell him you have contacted law enforcement about his harassment. Unfortunately law enforcement can't do much until he actually does something harmful.




Quoting lovelove211:

How did you get it to stop?






Quoting elliem87:

Yes. I was in school for criminal justice and asked one of my teachers what I should do, she said document everything. When he would wait at work, say he say saw me driving on a busy street, leave notes on my car, drive past my school, he knew my schedule for school, and he would wait in his truck for me to go to work.



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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 5:54 AM
I'm glad they stopped and left you alone. It's scary


Quoting Anonymous:

Several times, but there were two major ones. One was a guy twice my age who'd show up at the department store where I worked and watch me from behind pillars, or follow me around the mall on breaks. The other was older, too, he'd leave newspapers, flowers and notes on my doorstep. Both quit when I called the cops and they were apprehended.

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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 5:55 AM
The lady at the supermarket told me to scream too. It's horrible


Quoting marinenonstop:

Ive actually been stalked a few times.. when i as 15 an older boy that was friends with my sister started stalking me. He actually tried to hide behind an empty garbage can when i saw him once. My sister told him to leave me alone..i told him to leave me alone.. my mom called his mom..nothing worked. My sister's bf started walking me to and from school and he finally did.



My ex husband was stalking me during our divorce process. He would call me from random payphones and threaten to kidnap our son. Would follow me everywhere..I had a restraining order against him so i called the cops and had him arrested. That's when it stopped.



My ex before dh stalked dh and i for a while. He stopped when dh threatened him.



If he comes up to you again..start screaming like no ones business and call the cops.

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