My husband using my mental illness against me sometimes.
My husband uses my mental illness against me sometimes. Like if we fight then he says oh it's because you are bipolar. He says I can't tell when I am being unreasonable. He can be a jerk and unfair but because of this mental illness.
He did that tonight and I am in tears. I am so hurt but I have to move on and I can't really tell him how this hurts or how wrong he is because he just doesn't get it. He will just throw it back at me.
Tonight I was trying to explain something. He kept interupting me. I could not get a word in edgewise. It was after that that I raised my voice a little maybe twice. Before he went off to pout in the bedroom he said to me that just because I am Bipolar doesn't mean I can act the way I do.
Basically my mental illness is his card. It's his get out of being an ass card.
Lucky for me this doesn't occur on a daily basis or even weekly but it hurts when he does this. It's like he can't take responsibility. I never use my mental illness. I don't say I can be mad because I am bipolar. I am going over coping skills and I have made a lot of improvements.
I am glad I know what is wrong with me . I will say that first off . I will say though that it would be nice not to know at moments like this because it hurts my heart really bad. He takes something about me that I have no control over(the illness not my actions btw) and then uses it to HIS advantage. I am the weak one so he ends up being on top.
ETA: by fight, I mean squabble