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S/O Would you get rid of an animal for a child? EDIT

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If you had to choose between an animal and your kid which would you choose??

I cannot believe the responses to the other post. I get loving your animal, but if the child is allergic, the animal has to go. I dont care if its just her step kid that is allergic, it shouldnt even be a question.

Edit: Wow, I went to bed with 100 responses and woke up to 300 lol I didnt realize this would take off like this....

So new question...

For those of you that are fine with just medicating the kid, so you can keep your beloved pet, what if you were the BM in this situation. Would you be okay with Dad drugging your child, with several benedryl a day, everytime your kid goes for visitation?
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 19, 2013 at 10:23 PM
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by Ruby Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 1:42 PM
I read what you wrote about your son. But before that you stated that if it (he) could be controlled with meds, you'd do that instead of getting rid of the pet. Putting your kids on meds that he has to take every day just so you can keep your pet is putting your child's health at great risk, in comparison to the risk to his health if you were to just get rid of the pet so your kid could stay healthy without being drugged (which really isn't healthy by any stretch anyway).

Quoting surromama:

Clearly you didn't read what I posted before No. I'm not repeating myself.

Quoting kailu1835:

Putting one's child at risk on purpose, just for your own selfish desires to own a pet (I am most definitely not talking about service animals here) is tantamount to child abuse. Depending on the type of medication you're shoving down your kids throat so you can keep your pet, side effects of allergy medications can include nosebleeds, IBS symptoms, yeast infections, glaucoma and cataracts, stomach ulcers, delayed growth in children, just to name a few. But yes, keeping your pet is so much more important than making sure your child stays healthy.


Quoting surromama:


Quoting kailu1835:

Why should the child be forced to take a medication every single day that has a side effect list the size of my arm just so you can keep your animal? That doesn't sound selfish to you?

Quoting surromama:

If the child can take meds to control the issue then I'd keep it. If it would cause discomfort to the child the prt would have to go.

If it was a part time step child, the same applies. If the child isn't there very much, I may try to find somewhere for the dog to go on the days the child is there.

My son constantly sneezes, watery eyes, swells if a cat touches him and that's all with allergy meds. I wouldn't want him to live with that.
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by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 1:56 PM
I have allergies to some animals. I also am a huge animal lover, we have 2 dogs and a cat, which are essentially my idea/ doing. So, I come from both sides.

A visiting relative, I would not. A permanent household member, it would depend on the severity, and alternate arrangements. Such as not allowing the animal in certain areas of the house. If the allergies where quite severe then obviously the answer is yes.
I'm not a fan of taking medication for allergies, in fact, I dont at all. I wouldn't expect my child to live off of them. I dont think anybody would.

This is a very large grey area. Not a black and white question.
by Platinum Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 1:57 PM
I also said if the meds caused the child discomfort, the pet would have to go.
I also said, if a part time step child was there I would find a place for it to go, among other things.
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by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 2:34 PM

I would choose my child.Then I would find the pet a good home.

by Anonymous 103 on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:07 PM
I didn't see where she said it was adopted. It could have been a gift, it could have wondered up. The point is, your child should come FIRST!

Quoting taeray:

You're still responsible for the animals you adopt. You're not keeping your dog or cat for dinner, you adopted it and took on the responsibility of having a pet. Can't handle that, don't have pets.

Quoting Anonymous:

We kill animals to eat everyday. Get real.

Quoting taeray:

Wow, they're living things with feelings. They're completely helpless, living creatures, dependent on the mercy of their caretakers.

So sick.

Quoting Anonymous:

I don't get some people. Animals are a dime a fucking dozen. Your kid is not. For fucks sake.

by New Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:10 PM

When I was little I was diagnosed with some pretty severe allergies. I have the highest allergy you can have to cats, but then also to dust. My mom gave me the choice of living with some discomfort (I kept Vaseline by my bed to get the crusties off my eyes in the am). I didn't take meds that often but my mom probably should have bought stock in Kleenex. I didn't have asthma though. Also, lots of newer studies are showing that being exposed to allergens can help allergies and growing up in a home with a pet helps the immune system. Allergy shots are just that, exposure. There are a lot of positives to growing up with pets, companionship, responsibility, unconditional love. . . I don't think this is a black or white question. For many, pets are family too. Obviously, something life threatening is a different story.

by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:13 PM

 If he's allergic, there may be alternatives like proper grooming/cleaning. But if it ever got bad, I don't think I would make my child put up with his body rejecting my lovely pet. If the dog/cat was aggressive towards my child and I could not break them/train them, they'd have to go too. This is only if all my options have been exhausted, I'm not one to easily give up my four legged children.

by New Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:14 PM

PS There are lots of other allergy meds besides benadryl!! Lots of natural remedies too. And no, the side effects aren't all that bad!

by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:35 PM

I am allergic to dogs and there's a very fuzzy, very snuggly dog in my home. HEPA filters work wonders.

by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:57 PM
To each his/her own. Everyone has a different set of priorities I can tell. Having said that, let me share this tidpit.The word 'Parent' is derived from the Latin word for 'Guardian' or 'Protector' witch us,a person's main job after he/she desides to bring a child into the world and keep them. I personally know someone who's child has breathing problems/allergies and has done a couple hospital stints because of pneumonia because of said issues. This little girl lives in a home with 6 animals. The adults in the home have no intention of giving any of them up. Hey, like I said, to each his/her own. To me its in no way child abuse by any stretch of the imagination, however, depending on the sevarity of the breathing issues, it may not be in the childs best health intrest. Plus, an adult can decide if taking allergy medicine is right for them but a child (in taking 6 & under) doesn't really have that choice.
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