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Do Liars Like Lance Armstrong & Manti T'eo Deserve Our Forgiveness?

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Liars Like Lance Armstrong & Manti T'eo Deserve Our Forgiveness

Posted by Maressa Brown on January 19, 2013

lance armstrong and oprahEvery minute it seems, we're finding out another prominent person in the news lied (or cheated) in some way, shape, or form. Manti T'eo and Lance Armstrong just happen to be the two most recent ... And every time it happens, it seems like our general reaction is basically the same: "How could he?!" We're shocked, dismayed, and swiftly ready to write the person off as a bad egg forever. But maybe it shouldn't necessarily be that way. Maybe we're being too quick to judge.

See, while watching the Lance Armstrong-Oprah interview yesterday, I kept thinking that while he was totally coming off like a schumuck who reeeeally screwed up and tarnished his squeaky-clean, do-gooder rep, I could also understand why he did what he did.

I wouldn't go so far as to say as I feel sympathy for the guy, but it just seemed like he lied for many reasons ... One of them is because he was so immersed in a culture of deceit. He kept using the word "generation" to explain to Oprah how he wasn't alone. Not in a cowardly, finger-pointing way, but in a way that makes you take a step back and realize he wasn't alone in deceiving us all. Doping was a generally accepted trend in his world. What riders did (and lied about) to be successful. And once he figured he could get away with it, and everyone else was getting away with it, he just kept "riding out" the lie ... for better or worse.

Similarly, we don't know all the exact details behind the Manti T'eo mess, but it seems like the guy lied because he got swept up in the fable. Couldn't face the consequence of the truth coming out. (Not that that fear prevented it from happening!)

And really, who hasn't been in a situation like that? Even if it was a little white lie you told once, we've all been scared silly to admit the truth at one time or another ... So how can we judge these guys so harshly for doing the same very human thing -- that happened to unfold in front of cameras and entire country?

The way I see it -- it boils down to them just being flawed in a regretable but deeply human way. So the humane thing to do is to consider forgiveness.

How do you feel about Lance and Manti's lies? Do you think you could "forgive" either man?

by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 12:41 PM
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by Ruby Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:00 PM
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I would have to care to forgive

by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:18 PM

I really don't see what Armstrong did that was sooooo wrong. He raised SO much money for people. How is this bad? The other person I've never heard of.

by Platinum Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:25 PM

Lance Armstrong and Manti T'eo's events are completely different. Lance Armstrong did it because he's a douche. Manti T'eo lied about his "girlfriend", but that is different. To be able to do that, you have to be one sad person! Either way, move on. It doesn't effect my life.

by Anonymous 16 on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:25 PM

if we don't know the details about Manti's situation, then the title is libelous and Manti and his team can sue. I'd suggest to the writer to change it immediately.

by Anonymous 16 on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:27 PM
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Quoting QTMom2302:

Manti Te'o didn't lie about his gf. He honestly didn't know she wasn't real. His friend admitted to making her up and getting him to fall in love w/ this fake girl. He was the victim in that situation and honestly he doesn't need to explain himself to the public. The only one that should be doing any explaining would be the friend that made her up.


and I agree with the anon about the title. it needs to be changed before the writer and the stir is sued

by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 11:44 PM

 It is a real dissapointment about Lance. He was a hero now he will go down in history as a liar and a cheat. He needs to ask forgiveness from his sponsors and family, I really don't think he needs my forgiveness.

by Bronze Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 12:12 AM

I don't know them for it to personally affect me ... like my forgiveness will mean anything. I just feel for those people who are directly affected. 

by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 12:21 AM
by Anonymous 17 on Jan. 21, 2013 at 2:00 AM

I don't think they care if they have your long as they have your attention!

by Gold Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 2:40 AM
Lance didn't "ruin" cycling single-handedly,nor did he cheat his teammates,this doping thing was done by them all,including the ones who testified against him.Unfortunately,he is the biggest name,so the dagger was pointed straight at him.Its a tad unfair that some traded in HIS story for lesser penalties,but I'm sure it was a tad unfair that he got all the glory,fame,and big bucks,when they were all a "team"back in their days.

Quoting valhallaarwen:

I would not put Lance and Manti in the same boat first of all.  I do believe Manti was duped by the internet girlfriend because some folks do have internet relationships (not saying all folks lie on the internet) but I also think he was ashame to say he had a girlfriend he never met to his parents.  I guess my best example of folks being duped is that true life movie/case Tallhotblonde.  Secondly, what Lance did was not only lie, he screwed over others who was doing the same thing he was.  He does not need to be forgiven.  And in fact, Lance is acting like, imo, as if he didn't do it but some evil version of himself did those things.  that is a problem to me. Manti to be deserves it, Lance not so.  And even though you didn't ask, I don't think this is the same as Tiger Woods. Yes, he cheated on his wife, not his teammates or the sport.  He didn't ruin golf, like Lance has ruined cycling. 

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