The thread about "what were you spanked with" opened up some wounds on me that I thought I had gotten past. I'm 43, a mother of four, and I guess that deep down some wounds never heal.
So I just wanted to say to every woman here that was abused as a child, mentally, physically, or sexually, I am truly sorry. I'm sorry you were not cherished and protected as you should have been. I'm sorry those who should have been protecting you were the ones you suffered at the hands of. You were not a bad child. You were not ugly, stupid, or any of the horrible names that were shouted at you as a child. You deserved to be loved, and my heart goes out to all of us that have these horrible scars that reopen from time to time.
My way of coping with my childhood abuse is to lavish love, affection, humor, guidance, teaching humility without humiliating, empathy, and allowing my children to come to me for anything. I don't ever want to see the look of fear in my children's eyes the way I know I looked at my mother growing up. There is a huge difference between discipline and abuse.