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I just found out my husband is dealing drugs

Anonymous
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My husband and I separated last summer because I found out he selling all of his prescription pain killers. He is on oxycotin and oxycodone. We were separated for 3 months and he promised to stop selling his pills.

We got into counseling and worked through the problem of his selling drugs and the lying about it. Or so I thought. I let him come back home when I was sure that he was not selling anymore.

Well tonight he was in the shower and he got a text. I glanced over because at first I thought it was my phone. We have the same phone and the same text chime. He usually has his phone on vibrate and I never do

Anyway. I look and it is from the guy he used to sell to asking when he was going to meet him because he had some money to spend and needed some help. 

I picked up his phone and went throught it. He is selling again. There were texts from the same people he sold to before and some others I didn't recognise. All of them asking if he had anything left, or to meet him somewhere and that they had money.

When he got out of the shower, I confronted him. At least he didn't lie. He admitted he was selling. He wouldn't say for how long. His responce was "a little while" He said he was sorry and he would stop in a month or two.

Ok first of all I will NOT live with a drug dealer. 

Second, where is the money going? I pay all of the bills except the cell phone which is around $200 and the car insurance which is less than $100.

He makes over $1000 a month at his job. Who knows how much he is getting from the pills. 

I cannot and will not do this again. I am done. I have to get him out of my house.

I am laying here trying to figure out how to get him out tomorrow. I made him sleep on the couch tonight, so he knows I am pissed. 

This is a very small town and he went to school with half of the police department, plus I don't have proof. It is on his phone, which he has. So he has probably erased it by now.

Legally I can't just tell him to leave and make him go. I don't know how but somehow I have to get him out. 

I am filing for divorce as soon as possible. 

Any ideas how to get him out? 

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:37 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:39 AM
He is probably stacking the money that he's making... That's what most dealers do!
happy41ce
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:40 AM
OMG hell no. Kick his ass out!
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nataliesmom2012
by Platinum Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:42 AM

Why can't you make him leave?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:43 AM

I am telling him to get out in the morning as soon as I can get someone to come get the kids so they don't have to see it. But, legally speaking, we both on the mortgage, the house is in both names, so if he says he won't go, the police can't make him.  There has been no violence so I can't get a protective order.

I am trying to figure out HOW to get him to go

Quoting happy41ce:

OMG hell no. Kick his ass out!


happy41ce
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:44 AM
Turn him in. That'll work! The police will be happy to escort his ass away :)

Quoting Anonymous:

I am telling him to get out in the morning as soon as I can get someone to come get the kids so they don't have to see it. But, legally speaking, we both on the mortgage, the house is in both names, so if he says he won't go, the police can't make him.  There has been no violence so I can't get a protective order.

I am trying to figure out HOW to get him to go

Quoting happy41ce:

OMG hell no. Kick his ass out!


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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:44 AM

He is on the mortgage too. Legally it is as much his house as it is mine. The police will say it is a civil matter.

If I had some proof, I could maybe have him arrested, but the proof is on his phone.

If he was violent, I could get a protective order, but he isn't. 

Quoting nataliesmom2012:

Why can't you make him leave?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:45 AM
Um you can tell him to get out. But you're right if both of you are on mortgage or lease then yeah he can refuse.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:45 AM
Just tell him to gtfo. He knows why.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:47 AM

Right now that is all I can think of is to threaten him with the police. I do plan to call them but with no proof, and half of them being his friends since grade school, I am not sure they will do anything.

When he was selling before, I went to the wife of one of the cops and she had me come over one night and I told the cop when he was going to the doctor to get his script and who he sold to. He said they would set up a sting but it never happened

Quoting happy41ce:

Turn him in. That'll work! The police will be happy to escort his ass away :)

Quoting Anonymous:

I am telling him to get out in the morning as soon as I can get someone to come get the kids so they don't have to see it. But, legally speaking, we both on the mortgage, the house is in both names, so if he says he won't go, the police can't make him.  There has been no violence so I can't get a protective order.

I am trying to figure out HOW to get him to go

Quoting happy41ce:

OMG hell no. Kick his ass out!



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:47 AM

Yes he knows, but legally with the house in both names, I cannot make him. He can refuse.

Quoting Anonymous:

Just tell him to gtfo. He knows why.


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