*Sigh* So I have this really good friend...we've been friends for 10 years, roommates in college, bridesmaid in my wedding, unofficial "godmom" to my daughter, hung out all the time. Lately she just keeps making plans with me and cancelling. Like probably 4 or 5 times in a row in the pasat 6 months. I know she's kind of in a bad place right now...she recently got out of a long, LONG relationship, turned 30 and hasn't met any of her life goals. She's been kind of depressed.
I know she loves me and my family and really loves being around us. She seems so excited when we make plans, but something always seems to come up to make her cancel. Example: Last night she was supposed to come over for the football game and my birthday. She'd been visiting family about an hour away but was gonna head home in the afternoon and come over for dinner and the game. I texted her around 3 asking if she could still make it. She replied: "Nope. Still in [town she was in]." WTF? I just don't understand why she makes plans with me that she's not 100% sure she'll even follow through with? Why make plans at all?
It almost seems like she doesn't understand how much it hurts my feelings. Like I could care less if she was coming over for my birthday or not and just needed to know how many mouths I was feeding. I miss her so much. I want to confront her about how much this hurts, but I don't want to push her even further away. I think her feelings are really sensitive right now. I feel like I don't even know her anymore and it's kinda breaking my heart :( Sorry this is so long, but any advice?