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Lazy Parenting or Smart Parenting? Added edit.

Anonymous
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Question: Potty Training

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Not actively potty training is lazy.

Letting a child decide for himself/herself when to potty train is smart parenting.


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This child is mine. 

This picture was taken two months before his third birthday. He is now 3 1/4 years old. 

He isn't potty trained. He still wears pull-ups constantly. He knows how to use a potty, and when he feels like it, he does, but that is a rare occurance.

 

My mother (who I really do love) says that I am being lazy by not forcing the issue with him. I say that you aren't supposed to force the issue with kids. 

 

 Edit: Just got back to this post. It really got a lot of responses. Thanks for the helpful advice.

Just want to address one thing. DH and I do talk to DS about potty training a lot. We applaud him when he uses the potty and encourage him to use the potty. He is just the kind of kid that it has to be his idea or he doesn't want to do it. If I take him to the bathroom he won't go, he has to initiate it.

I am planning on switching him to undies at home for now. That will be for a few hours in the evening and on the weekends. When he can show that he can go for a day at home, then I will ask his daycare provider to do undies too. We have tried undies in the past and he has had 3 accidents in a row without going to the potty. She has babies at the daycare too, so I don't want to put all of that on her.

Thanks again. I really did listen and will do undies at home from now on.

-Me

 

EDIT: Daddy was home with him today and put him in big boy undies for the whole day. He stayed dry and clean the whole darn day.

 

Let's hope this is the start of something amazing!

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:48 PM
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KairisMama
by Ruby Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:50 PM
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I don't know that you can force it. My son could care less if he soaks underwear right now. Pull ups it is until hes consistent. Were getting there.
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smalltownmom03
by Platinum Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:51 PM
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Why would he choose to use the toilet when you allow him to wear diapers?
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BEXi
by BEXi on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:52 PM
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I think it's fine since he's a young 3. I would encourage using the potty often, but I wouldnt force him.

                                                         
                                          
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:52 PM
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Lazy lazy lazy. SMH.
Kaelaasmom
by Katie on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:52 PM
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Quoting smalltownmom03:

Why would he choose to use the toilet when you allow him to wear diapers?

 Exactly what I was thinking.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:52 PM
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I am all for waiting until your child is ready but if he knows how to go to the bathroom and you don't make him then yes I consider that lazy. I waited until each of my kids were between the ages of 30 and 36 months. They where potty trained within a week no problem I don't think potty traing should take 6 months.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:52 PM


He goes to an in-home daycare full-time, so I can't expect her to deal with soiled underwear. But I guess I could put him in underwear at home.

Quoting smalltownmom03:

Why would he choose to use the toilet when you allow him to wear diapers?



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by Ruby Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:53 PM
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At this point it's lazy.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:54 PM
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Lazy.

faire_jour
by Platinum Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:54 PM
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If he knows how to do it, MAKE HIM. Pull ups are bad. 

I would be ashamed if my child was 3 and not potty trained.

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