I feel no guilt or sadness for her. Just ANGER. I am the one who had to tell her kids and watch them fall apart. I am the one who had to call her brothers and her exdh and hear them lose it. I had to call everyone. I'm the only adult here. I don't feel very adult. I want my Mommy. But she can't get here until tomorrow night. I have my cousins dd here crying on my couch. What do I do for her? How can I console her?
Edit: Thank you so much for the advice and nice words. It's been a horrible day. I got a text telling me she was going to do this and call the police. So I called 911 then her. She didn't answer. By the time they got there it was too late.
I had to go get her dd17 from a school project. It was awful telling her, poor thing. Same for her ds19, who is add/adhd and very emotionally immature. He is now the next of kin and completely unprepared for what he has to deal with.
I'm letting her dd17 sit on my couch and just be. He is with his friends now bottling it up inside.
My cousins mom, my favorite Auntie, passed in March last year. We all mourned but my cousin has not dealt well at all. But this? No one saw this coming. She wasn't sending out signals, no cries for help.
Her dd17 is like my own...I ache for her..