My son has seemed ''not happy'' with school so I asked him what's wrong and he said he didn't like the way he dressed bc he didn't fit in. When I asked why not he said I like to wear aeropostal, and Hollister but you don't buy me that, and that's what the kids wear. I asked him does he think clothes and shoes define him, and he replied no, but it makes for a stressful experience bc I feel like I don't fit in. So after a long discussion about ppl liking you for who you are and what real friends are we decided that those are the clothes I will purchase for him from now on. My husband doesn't understand that he says i'm teaching him fitting in means changing who he is to please others. But I told him I remember hs and it does matter, I didn't fit in and it was bc my parents thought the same way. But truth is it does matter and it does make for an uncomfortable experience bc you don't seem to fit in with your peers. Appearance is a big part of school and not only that it helps kids to understand that they should take pride in there appearance we are responsible for our children and we also play a big role in how they experience school. So I choose to buy him the clothes he prefers to help him feel more comfortable. Its just middle school but it does matter yrs later that my patents didn't take the time to already try. It would have made for better days at school.