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Question: Would you be upset by the scenario written below?

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You are having your second baby. This time around, you are having a boy (first child was a girl). So, you labour and give birth, then send your DH to call the close family and friends. He does this. Suddenly, your phone is dinging texts of congratulations from FaceBook. You check FB and notice that your Mother has posted about the birth of your son, his name, his weight and height measurements, and his time of birth... before you were even moved to the ward rooms... before you even had a chance to post it yourself. You had no reason to suspect that she would because she didn't do this with your daughter. Would that make you upset?

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I'm no longer upset over this but I do still hold the same feelings about the situation. I just wanted to see how other people would feel, given the same situation. We hadn't told anyone about the sex of our baby, or what the name was going to be. My mother had a lot of my friends on her FB because she either liked to keep tabs on me or wanted to be the "cool" mom that is besties with her daughter. I wasn't traumatized or exhausted or too busy after the birth to post for myself, either. It was my news to share. He was my baby. That was something that I would have liked to have done, as the parent. Yes, she was excited, I suppose, but why not say, "Yay! Baby arrived!"? I mean, she hadn't even seen him yet and she posted all of his stats.

Doesn't matter:) I am over it, I just wanted to see how others would feel on the matter and explain, maybe, why I felt the way I did.

by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 2:46 PM
Replies (101-109):
notjstasocermom
by Emerald Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:15 PM

nope that wouldn't bother me.

Maks1mommy
by Emerald Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:15 PM
I would be annoyed, but not actually upset. I'd tell her I wasn't happy though.
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Hi_Rae
by Gold Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:16 PM
I would've liked to tell the news myself, but I wouldnt be overly upset about it
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LadyF86
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:18 PM

 I think I would be a little upset because I feel that is MY news to share. Nothing I would hold a grudge about though

aleatra.r
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:20 PM
I would be upset
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Jessica020410
by Silver Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:24 PM
No, I wouldn't have been upset. I was upset, however, when I was brought to my room from recovery (had c-section), to see people holding my son (he was my 2nd) before I even got to. I made it clear before having my daughter that no one except DH (and doc & nurses, of course) can hold her before I do.
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TheLadyAmalthea
by Silver Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:27 PM

No. People get too bent out of shape because of facebook. If facebook didn't exist, she would still have called people. She's happy and sharing the news. Nothing malicious. Now if you would have asked her not to post and she did, you could be upset. I don't think it's a big deal at all. I would have asked someone to post about it. I wouldn't have posted about the birth of my baby until after I got home. I don't do all that facebook stuff in the hospital. It's a time to cuddle with your new baby, rest and recover.

Oostera
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 9:16 PM
Then she should have respectfully waited until I had posted it. She could have said, "Yay! The baby is here! So happy!" She didn't have to post his stats, it wasn't her birth.

It takes, what, a minute to post that information? I wouldn't have been losing out on any bonding time.


Quoting TheLadyAmalthea:

No. People get too bent out of shape because of facebook. If facebook didn't exist, she would still have called people. She's happy and sharing the news. Nothing malicious. Now if you would have asked her not to post and she did, you could be upset. I don't think it's a big deal at all. I would have asked someone to post about it. I wouldn't have posted about the birth of my baby until after I got home. I don't do all that facebook stuff in the hospital. It's a time to cuddle with your new baby, rest and recover.

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AnitaA
by Silver Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 9:34 AM

I wouldn't really care to be honest. But then again I don't care much about FB stuff.

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