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Question: Would you be upset by the scenario written below?

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You are having your second baby. This time around, you are having a boy (first child was a girl). So, you labour and give birth, then send your DH to call the close family and friends. He does this. Suddenly, your phone is dinging texts of congratulations from FaceBook. You check FB and notice that your Mother has posted about the birth of your son, his name, his weight and height measurements, and his time of birth... before you were even moved to the ward rooms... before you even had a chance to post it yourself. You had no reason to suspect that she would because she didn't do this with your daughter. Would that make you upset?

Added:

I'm no longer upset over this but I do still hold the same feelings about the situation. I just wanted to see how other people would feel, given the same situation. We hadn't told anyone about the sex of our baby, or what the name was going to be. My mother had a lot of my friends on her FB because she either liked to keep tabs on me or wanted to be the "cool" mom that is besties with her daughter. I wasn't traumatized or exhausted or too busy after the birth to post for myself, either. It was my news to share. He was my baby. That was something that I would have liked to have done, as the parent. Yes, she was excited, I suppose, but why not say, "Yay! Baby arrived!"? I mean, she hadn't even seen him yet and she posted all of his stats.

Doesn't matter:) I am over it, I just wanted to see how others would feel on the matter and explain, maybe, why I felt the way I did.

by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 2:46 PM
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summerbear
by Silver Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 3:09 PM
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I would be pissed! Which is why we take steps to avoid that situation. We wait 2 hours before even calling anyone to announce the birth. Only stats we give over the phone is time of birth and gender. By the time family shows up, I already have it posted on fb via my phone. And the first pic.
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Oostera
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 3:11 PM

That is exactly how I felt. It was my news to break, not hers. We didn't even tell anyone the sex of the baby so that was a surprise for all, too. We shared a lot of mutual friends and family because my mother had this weird thing about adding my friends to her FB... either she was trying to keep tabs on me or she wanted to feel "cool", which she actually has a history of.

Quoting Thibmom:

Yes, I'd be upset. Matter of fact, you just reminded me to tell our mothers not to post the news until after we do. I understand the excitement, but my husband or I want to be the first to share it. Plus, we haven't announced our baby's name yet. We are waiting to do that when we announce her birth. If anyone else shares that before us, I'll be pretty upset.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jan. 22, 2013 at 3:12 PM
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When we found out through ultrasound that DD was a girl (after having a boy) we called people from the parking lot and told them. Before we even got home ( 20 minute trip) my older sister had posted it on facebook that we were having a girl. I was very annoyed that she did that. Yeah, I know we told some people, but we wanted to announce it ourselves in our own way. It was not her business to post it before us. There were people we wanted to tell in person or via phone before they found out via facebook, and we didn't get to do that :( Now, we never tell my sister ANYTHING. EVER.

 As an added note, 15 minutes after DD was born, my DH put her picture and birth announcement on facebook. We didn't call anyone, and my DH read me all the comments people made. It was kind of nice :)

Oostera
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 3:13 PM

I'm was upset because she posted before I had the chance to. It was my news to break and we share a lot of mutual friends and family. She has added my friends to her FB for whatever reason, too. We hadn't even told people what sex the baby was or his name.

Quoting Bauxite-17:

What are you upset about exactly? That she posted before you got a chance post, or that she posted on her wall that you son is such and such a weight, but she never did that for your dde and you're thinking she is already picking favorites?


Bauxite-17
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 3:22 PM

 Eh...I wouldn't be upset.


Quoting Oostera:

I'm was upset because she posted before I had the chance to. It was my news to break and we share a lot of mutual friends and family. She has added my friends to her FB for whatever reason, too. We hadn't even told people what sex the baby was or his name.

Quoting Bauxite-17:

What are you upset about exactly? That she posted before you got a chance post, or that she posted on her wall that you son is such and such a weight, but she never did that for your dde and you're thinking she is already picking favorites?



 

pbjtime87
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 3:24 PM
No, it's trivial
Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Jan. 22, 2013 at 3:25 PM

No.

Times like these I feel blessed to have daughters, so hopefully, I will have no DILs to judge every move I make.

mommieT
by Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 3:29 PM

HELL YEAH

 that would piss me off. she probably didn't do it to be vindictive or mean but it was still wrong she probably doesn't even know how offensive it was to you. how are you going to handle it or are you even going to. I don't know what i would do.

Thibmom
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 3:29 PM
Now, if they say "she's here!", I'll be okay with that. We already announced we are having a girl. But as far as stats and name...no.

Quoting Oostera:

That is exactly how I felt. It was my news to break, not hers. We didn't even tell anyone the sex of the baby so that was a surprise for all, too. We shared a lot of mutual friends and family because my mother had this weird thing about adding my friends to her FB... either she was trying to keep tabs on me or she wanted to feel "cool", which she actually has a history of.

Quoting Thibmom:

Yes, I'd be upset. Matter of fact, you just reminded me to tell our mothers not to post the news until after we do. I understand the excitement, but my husband or I want to be the first to share it. Plus, we haven't announced our baby's name yet. We are waiting to do that when we announce her birth. If anyone else shares that before us, I'll be pretty upset.


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redneckmama2
by Silver Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 3:31 PM

Wouldnt bother me one bit. She is a grandma again being extremely excited about the new baby! She has every right to brag!

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