You are having your second baby. This time around, you are having a boy (first child was a girl). So, you labour and give birth, then send your DH to call the close family and friends. He does this. Suddenly, your phone is dinging texts of congratulations from FaceBook. You check FB and notice that your Mother has posted about the birth of your son, his name, his weight and height measurements, and his time of birth... before you were even moved to the ward rooms... before you even had a chance to post it yourself. You had no reason to suspect that she would because she didn't do this with your daughter. Would that make you upset?
Added:
I'm no longer upset over this but I do still hold the same feelings about the situation. I just wanted to see how other people would feel, given the same situation. We hadn't told anyone about the sex of our baby, or what the name was going to be. My mother had a lot of my friends on her FB because she either liked to keep tabs on me or wanted to be the "cool" mom that is besties with her daughter. I wasn't traumatized or exhausted or too busy after the birth to post for myself, either. It was my news to share. He was my baby. That was something that I would have liked to have done, as the parent. Yes, she was excited, I suppose, but why not say, "Yay! Baby arrived!"? I mean, she hadn't even seen him yet and she posted all of his stats.
Doesn't matter:) I am over it, I just wanted to see how others would feel on the matter and explain, maybe, why I felt the way I did.
I'd be upset, I had an emergency c-section and when I saw pics the next day of my mil holding my son (before I even got to hold him) I cried
That depends on the kind of person the grandparent is but that is not the point. I appreciate your view but I felt the way I felt. That was my news to share, as his mother.
Quoting Acid:Heaven Forbid she be proud and happy to be a Grandma.
Be happy your children have involved Grandparents.
Holy Shit people get their tightie whities in knots over the dumbest, stupidest, shit.
To be completely honest yeah I would probably be a little upset. Does it make complete sense? No. Do emotions always make sense? No, definitely not. Also, right after CB I'd probably be even more upset.
Quoting Acid:Heaven Forbid she be proud and happy to be a Grandma.
Be happy your children have involved Grandparents.
Holy Shit people get their tightie whities in knots over the dumbest, stupidest, shit.
I honestly don't know. When I had my kids, FB didn't even exist. My personal opinion is that sharing news of a new baby is something I would want to do face to face with my friends or the old fashioned way of sending birth announcements. Getting online for anything at all would be off my list of things to think about after having a baby.
Yup, she posted them to facebook before I was even out of recovery, along with "Look at my new baby!"
Quoting Oostera:Aw, I'm so sorry:( That would just tear me up.
Quoting EvilQueenMommy:I'd be upset, I had an emergency c-section and when I saw pics the next day of my mil holding my son (before I even got to hold him) I cried
"I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it."- Evelyn Beatrice Hall
I'm a grandparent and I don't really get why you were upset, you became a new parent, but she became a new grandparent. She was very excited, she has a new grandchild. That means alot to some of us grandparents. She was just sharing the news with her friends on facebook.
I guess I see that you would have wanted to share your news first, but it's really not that big of a deal. Glad to hear your not upset about it anymore. I'm sure it wasn't done in anyway to hurt you, she was just so proud and excited about her grandbaby. :)
Mom to 6~MawMaw to 9 & counting!
I think my husband's a sociopath
- Oostera
on Jan. 22, 2013 at 2:46 PM