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Shes mad at me for choosing to use the same name as the Baby she miscarried,,,but I don't think I'm in the wrong

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I'm 32 weeks pregnant.
We finally settled on a name.
Evelyn Nicole.
My best friend flipped when i told her the name.

Her: you can NOT use Evelyn.

Me:...what do you mean? That's the name we chose. Of course we can use it. We're naming her after my grandma.

She Started crying and screaming then called me a bitch and stormed off

I called John, her husband to find Out what the hell was going on.

He said that when she had found Out she was pregnant they already had names picked and they chose Evelyn for a girl.

She miscarried at 15 weeks
That was A year and a Half ago.

But she never told me they had already picked names.

My first baby was still born

I understand why she's upset; but I didn't know.

I tried to talk to her and she yelled at me and called me a selfish inconsiderate bitch.

I understand shes hurting but I don't think I did anything wrong or deserve to be treated like this.

I wasn't aware they had picked names. If I had known we wouldn't have gone anywhere near that boundary. But I didn't know, so what was I suppose to do, take every name we liked and run it by her to make sure it was ok?


I know she's hurt, I've been there.
But I don't know what to do now.
I love the name. But I don't want to hurt her even more since now I do know that it's the same name :(
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 22, 2013 at 10:58 PM
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Jennyanne322
by Ruby Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:06 PM
This!

Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

1- You didn't know she'd picked that name. 

2- It's a family name

3- It was a year and a half ago. 


Name your child Evelynn. She doesn't own rights to the name. Sooner or later, she WILL understand. 

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:06 PM

I would choose another name.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:06 PM

idk, I lost a preganacy and didnt care, but everyone is different you know?  Some people take people react as if they had lost a full term baby and honestly that's ok.  Who are we to define that grief?  

I would say if it bothers her that much pick a new name

bustybee
by Buzz Lightyear on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:06 PM

I'd use what ever name I wanted, your reasons are valid so use the name if you feel its best

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:06 PM
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Your friend is a selfish, inconsiderate bitch. You didn't know she liked the name. She does not own that name. It's a family name. So, no one she knows can use the name Evelyn?

babyboy117
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:07 PM
I can see if you KNEW already. She knrw the sex of the baby at 15 weeks though? That's early.
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wrensong
by Pagan Mother on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:07 PM

You didn't know. And it is a family name. Name your daughter Evelyn if you want

DarksMama
by Platinum Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:07 PM

Maybe reverse the names?

Mamabear010
by Gold Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:08 PM



Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

1- You didn't know she'd picked that name. 

2- It's a family name

3- It was a year and a half ago. 


Name your child Evelynn. She doesn't own rights to the name. Sooner or later, she WILL understand. 


^^^ Yup.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:10 PM
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I don't know If they know or not. They had been TTc for 2 years so I guess they had just picked names during that period of time


Quoting babyboy117:

I can see if you KNEW already. She knrw the sex of the baby at 15 weeks though? That's early.

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