What would have made it better?
Quoting Anonymous:A new set of parents... and I didn't have a rotten childhood, I had a destructive one... I'm pretty sure I'm suppose to be some sort drug addict or abuser considering how I grew up... I am a manipulator but that's as bad as it gets...
This. I probably should be a drunken whore, but I'm the opposite. I hate alcohol and men annoy me. I think they're evil. Thanks mom for your fucked up choices in men. A 7/8 year old shouldn't see you and your drunk boyfriend passed out naked as the day they were born and passed out in the door of your bathroom. My child will never ever see me like that, and she'll never see any man that I'm with like that. Stupid ass woman. The list goes on but I won't.
Not being raped over and over again. My mother giving me up for adoption like she should have.
Same here. My Mom passed when I was 13.
Quoting nyxiemist:My mother not dieing of cancer would have made it much better.
My mother not dieing of cancer would have made it much better.
It could have been much better but could have been alot worse. One thing I would have changed would be that i would have begged my dad to take me with him when he left when I was seven then I wouldnt have had to go through a lot of the stuff that I endured for years.
There are a number of things, but at the same time, they've made me who I am today and, quite frankly, I really like me, and I wouldn't change who I am today for anything.
Exile Island. A fun place with colorful people.
I wholeheartedly agree with that as much as i would have liked living with my dad instead of my mom. I would still keep my childhood the same because it made me a strong independant person that can handle anything that is thrown at me.
Quoting sugarcrisp:There are a number of things, but at the same time, they've made me who I am today and, quite frankly, I really like me, and I wouldn't change who I am today for anything.
Not having been beaten. Not having to watch my dad beat my mom. Not having my sister's husband ask to see my boobs when I was in 6th grade (I was a B cup). That would have been good.
I dont generally go around complaining or even really talking about how shitty my childhood was. The past is the past. If I absolutely had to choose things to change, I would change; My mom should have been a mom. I should have known my dad from day 1. I shouldn't have had to hold in my step-grandpa raping me from my pos family for 7 years. If I didn't have to be a parent to my brother and sister then have them grow up resenting me because I didn't want them hating my mom. I was constantly telling them that it wasn't her fault. If we had a stable home, and family. If we didn't move twice a year, every year until I was a freshman and the state finally noticed what was happening and took us from my mom. If I didn't have to live with the pain and regret because of my mothers/grandma/great-grandmas choices. But, it's ok. I'm growing every day into a better person than they are. I wouldn't be where I am today and who I am today without all the crap that happened to me.
I didn't have a rotten childhood, I lived in the real world.
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