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i told my husband i was going to start masturbating

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I HATE double standards.
I dont care if he does, but it does hurt my feelings if he doesnt come to me for sex first.
Hes been doing it a lot. So i told him i was going to start.

Of course, now hes being pissy. He wants to be "enough" for me, but it's not ok for me to want to be "enough" for him, wtf!

Don't even start on me about what's ok in YOUR marriage. This is MY marriage, not yours, and it's ok to be different!!
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:18 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 15 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 9:00 AM
It amazes me that you have been bashed like crazy, and not ONE word by them, has been directed to your DH, even though he doesnn't want YOU doing it, but he thinks he can. Did all these bashers miss that? Oh no, though. You having a problem with him doing it TOO MUCH is worse than him not wanting YOU to di it at all! Plus, being a hypocrite!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 9:02 AM

I didn't miss it, but the fact that she's letting him dictate that for her says a lot.

I really don't think that particular aspect is the problem.

Quoting Anonymous:

It amazes me that you have been bashed like crazy, and not ONE word by them, has been directed to your DH, even though he doesnn't want YOU doing it, but he thinks he can. Did all these bashers miss that? Oh no, though. You having a problem with him doing it TOO MUCH is worse than him not wanting YOU to di it at all! Plus, being a hypocrite!



Anonymous
by Anonymous 15 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 9:04 AM
Bitches be crazy...and I'm not talking about OP........ :o
Anonymous
by Anonymous 25 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 9:05 AM
How is she making a spectacle? It's not like she's in the corner flicking screaming "you will never get this". No. She just told him that since he's not giving her her's (yet getting his) then she will go do it herself. HE'S the one getting pissy about it. Which, too me shows more of a problem, since he doesn't seem to care that she's feeling sexually unsatisfied and frustrated.

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm not getting any (been over 6 months) and I still thing she's acting like a whiny child who's pissed they didn't get a cookie.

End story, actions speak stronger than words.  If she's going to threaten, she should have the proverbial balls to actually do it and not make a spectacle of the situation by taunting her husband.


Quoting Anonymous:

I don't understand why OP is getting bashed. If these ladies weren't getting any because their man was too busy jerking or because his penis was too desensitized so he comes too fast, you know they'd be upset. It's like, the bashers are more upset that you're upset that he's masturbating, and the replies I've read make it seem that you're okay with it sometimes. But if he touches himself more than he touches you then heck yes that's a problem!! It's not just about sexual release, you want feelings of togetherness.

..I still don't understand why so many are bashing. You're feeling left out and unsatisfied in your sex life and trying to show him that if he won't give you yours then you'll get it yourself.



Maybe you should look into sex or marriage counseling??




supercarp
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 9:15 AM

 

I didn't say it should not be done. Reread what I wrote. If that's all he wants and you're not getting enough, then it's a problem.

Quoting Anonymous:

Since when is love required in sex?  Masturbation has a lot of good effects that have nothing to do with selfishness and/or love.

Stress relief, easing depression, prevention of prostate cancer, boosts immunity and helps maintain sexual verility.

For the boys

For the girls

Sometimes, it's just nice to play alone, too.

Quoting supercarp:

Masturbation is selfish in the sense that you're not doing it for another person, so there's no love involved.If he wants to leave you out of it, I consider that a red flag in a relationship.

 

 


 

scarletmeshell
by Platinum Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 9:23 AM

 OP doesn't want to masturbate, she is just doing it to try and upset her husband.

Quoting lucky2Beeme:


Quoting Anonymous:

I am a bit.
I want my husband to have sex with me.
Not be a hypocrite when it comes to masturbation.

Quoting lucky2Beeme:

  Angry much ??

I guess I dont understand why you needed to tell him. If you want to play with yourself do it.


 

Nannosmommy
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 9:25 AM
Wait what?!? U don't already?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 9:55 AM


Sorry about that :(  DH refuses to do anything about his E.D.

Quoting Anonymous:

It used to be porn over me.
Now its himself over me.

When we have sex, he gets off and when it's my turn to hop on top to get mine, he goes soft, making it impossible.

He won't be open with me, despite 7+ years together, no matter how open i try to be with him.

Quoting Anonymous:




Quoting Anonymous:

Unfortunatly, we have several sexual reds flags..






Not being nosy, but what do you mean.?  We're having problem also.



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