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i told my husband i was going to start masturbating

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I HATE double standards.
I dont care if he does, but it does hurt my feelings if he doesnt come to me for sex first.
Hes been doing it a lot. So i told him i was going to start.

Of course, now hes being pissy. He wants to be "enough" for me, but it's not ok for me to want to be "enough" for him, wtf!

Don't even start on me about what's ok in YOUR marriage. This is MY marriage, not yours, and it's ok to be different!!
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:18 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:49 AM
I try, but can't.

Quoting notjstasocermom:


well then get yours during foreplay before he cums


Quoting Anonymous:

Once a week, if I'm lucky, and recently, he gets off and goes soft before i get my turn!!



Quoting notjstasocermom:

are you still having sex?




lucky2Beeme
by Ruby Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:52 AM

  Angry much ??

Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:53 AM
Dh and I sometimes masturbate together. He LOVES watching me, lol.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:54 AM
This. I usually average 3x a day, though. Lmao


Quoting Anonymous:

OMG. Masturbation doesn't always equate to sex. I masturbate at least 3 times a week and it has nothing to do with sex. I've been doing it for years...its a good stress reliever and if he wanted to do it too...good for him! As long as we were still having sex a couple times a week then whatever. I think its controlling and weird when people get mad that their significant other masturbates.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:54 AM
I think your right. He didn't have supportive family either. He was rather isolated and alone growing up...

Quoting BigMamaMN:


Ha! I NAILED IT. :)

i don't think they know how to work/empathize with others as equals to the degree that people with siblings can.


Quoting Anonymous:

Yes...



Quoting BigMamaMN:

Is he an only child?




LilliesValley
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:55 AM
Well I guess I don't get your definition of marriage so....but there's nothing wrong with masturbation, whatever you got to do.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:55 AM
I've suggested, and even initiated this before. Hes too shy he says...

Quoting Anonymous:

seriously why dotn you try masturbating mutually?? ir hand jobs or whatever.. its awesome

she_walk_softly
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:55 AM

Flick the bean and don't worry about it .

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:56 AM
Its not about "let him have a wank" ... Its about him choosing hand and his penis over me, HIS WIFE!!

Quoting Anonymous:

You guys sound like 4 year olds.

If you won't let me play, I'm going to play all by myself!!  SO THERE, POOPYPANTS!

FFS, let the man have a wank.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:56 AM
Unfortunatly, we have several sexual reds flags..

Quoting supercarp:

Masturbation is selfish in the sense that you're not doing it for another person, so there's no love involved.If he wants to leave you out of it, I consider that a red flag in a relationship.

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