i told my husband i was going to start masturbating

[Anonymous]

I HATE double standards.
I dont care if he does, but it does hurt my feelings if he doesnt come to me for sex first.
Hes been doing it a lot. So i told him i was going to start.

Of course, now hes being pissy. He wants to be "enough" for me, but it's not ok for me to want to be "enough" for him, wtf!

Don't even start on me about what's ok in YOUR marriage. This is MY marriage, not yours, and it's ok to be different!!

[Mamasgirl524]

Don't you get sore?

Quoting Anonymous:

This. I usually average 3x a day, though. Lmao

Quoting Anonymous:

OMG. Masturbation doesn't always equate to sex. I masturbate at least 3 times a week and it has nothing to do with sex. I've been doing it for years...its a good stress reliever and if he wanted to do it too...good for him! As long as we were still having sex a couple times a week then whatever. I think its controlling and weird when people get mad that their significant other masturbates.

[Anonymous]

Punch him in the dick!

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I am a bit.
I want my husband to have sex with me.
Not be a hypocrite when it comes to masturbation.

Quoting lucky2Beeme:

  Angry much ??

[Lalalie]

Eh.

I never understood the masturbation fight.

Sometimes people just want to please themselves, and not have to worry about their partner. One on one is not a crime.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like my life, except I don't know if he's jerking off or not. Says he doesn't have  a desire for sex :(

Quoting Anonymous:

Once a week, if I'm lucky, and recently, he gets off and goes soft before i get my turn!!

Quoting notjstasocermom:

are you still having sex?

[JavaLadybug2]

Mastribation is disgusting. It hurts your sex drive and especially for the man it hurts his ability to stay erect longer.. 

2 people doing something wrong doesn't make it right! It just means they are BOTH WRONG!

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

My definition?

I never said masturbation was wrong.My husband masturbates more than he fucks me, and I'm tired of it. I told him i was gonna start getting off by myself and he got his panties in a twist.

Quoting LilliesValley:

Well I guess I don't get your definition of marriage so....but there's nothing wrong with masturbation, whatever you got to do.

[mattiehatter]

Nothing wrong with self release. He needs to suck it up.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Ugh. You people seriously lack reading comprehension.

Quoting Lalalie:

Eh.

I never understood the masturbation fight.

Sometimes people just want to please themselves, and not have to worry about their partner. One on one is not a crime.

[Anonymous]

Since when is love required in sex?  Masturbation has a lot of good effects that have nothing to do with selfishness and/or love.

Stress relief, easing depression, prevention of prostate cancer, boosts immunity and helps maintain sexual verility.

For the boys

For the girls

Sometimes, it's just nice to play alone, too.

Quoting supercarp:

Masturbation is selfish in the sense that you're not doing it for another person, so there's no love involved.If he wants to leave you out of it, I consider that a red flag in a relationship.