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So they do exist..

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I'm watching "The Mistress" on TV, a series where a former mistress helps other mistresses (of married men) get past the relationship and solve personal issues. 

The last woman on the show was 30 with two kids, she had been seeing a married man for almost 9 years. He promised her that he was going to divorce his wife many years ago and of course she ate it up for 9 years. One of her children is from a previous relationship and the other is from this current affair. She and her kids live with her mom, as well. The host told her to confront him about where the relationship was going, so she did, and reported back that he broke it off. The host was flabbergasted, "no, no! He's not the one that was supposed to break it off, you were! He doesn't have control, you do! You shouldn't have let him do that." 

Ummm, come again? It's his damn right to break it off whenever he wants, sure he's a total scumbag but you're the idiot that sat around on your ass for 9 years believing you'd someday be his one and only.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 23, 2013 at 1:53 PM
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meka26
by Gold Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:04 PM



Quoting ihave1:

 people who cheat w/ married men or women really need to realize that they will almost never leave the one they are married to.  Stupid asses


If they cheat WITH you they will cheat ON you. It makes perfect sense!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:06 PM

Yep, most likely.

Quoting meka26:



Quoting ihave1:

 people who cheat w/ married men or women really need to realize that they will almost never leave the one they are married to.  Stupid asses


If they cheat WITH you they will cheat ON you. It makes perfect sense!


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:24 PM

Not a homewrecker, if he never leaves the wife. Not a homewrecker, if the wife never finds out or she agrees with the relationship (i.e. "open" marriage). In any case, the real homewrecker, if things fall apart at home, is the cheating husband. If he doesn't want to risk his marriage, he shouldn't make the choice to cheat. The OW is a convenient person to blame, but look towards the middle--the cheater--for the person to blame.

BTW, she is also not a whore unless she sells her body for payment.


Quoting harehelper:

If you know the guy is married, you are not a victim. You are a homewrecker.

Quoting Anonymous:


You can't make a blanket statement like this, unless you have been a mistress yourself? How do you know?

Quoting Dzyre1115:

 You're not a victim when you're a mistress, you're just a whore and generally speaking a stupid whore for falling for the BS.  You get what you deserve when you act like that.  Not pity from me, just chuckles and I told you so!






Dzyre1115
by Desiree` on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:27 PM

 Hating would mean I would have had to care in the first place.....that's not likely!

Quoting Anonymous:


Actually, you are WRONG--again! Good luck hating everyone you don't understand.

Quoting Dzyre1115:

 Uh oh, your mistress is showing, you must be one of them.....can you see me pointing and laughing?

Quoting Anonymous:


Why? Do you point and laugh when your friends marry losers? Do you point and laugh when you kids make a mistake? Why would anyone make fun of other people?

Look in the mirror, honey. Like most around here say, "Karma is a bitch." Or, like others say, "Judge not, lest you be judged."

Quoting Dzyre1115:

 Oh I can and I did make a blanket statement, mistresses deserve nothing but pointing and laughing when it all falls apart.

Quoting Anonymous:


You can't make a blanket statement like this, unless you have been a mistress yourself? How do you know?

Quoting Dzyre1115:

 You're not a victim when you're a mistress, you're just a whore and generally speaking a stupid whore for falling for the BS.  You get what you deserve when you act like that.  Not pity from me, just chuckles and I told you so!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Loving19mommy92
by Silver Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:29 PM

She loved the man, had his kid. I wouldn't be sleeping with a married man but I understand, the woman is probably in a lot of pain over this. 

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:36 PM

I can't imagine feeling like I wasted 9 years of my life.

Quoting Loving19mommy92:

She loved the man, had his kid. I wouldn't be sleeping with a married man but I understand, the woman is probably in a lot of pain over this. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:42 PM

 

Quoting meka26:

 

 

Quoting ihave1:

 people who cheat w/ married men or women really need to realize that they will almost never leave the one they are married to.  Stupid asses

 

If they cheat WITH you they will cheat ON you. It makes perfect sense!

 I would say that this is 98% true.  I did cheat on my dh, but that was soo many years ago.  Have not even thought about doing it again.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:43 PM

Agreed completely. There are always exceptions. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 

Quoting meka26:



Quoting ihave1:

 people who cheat w/ married men or women really need to realize that they will almost never leave the one they are married to.  Stupid asses


If they cheat WITH you they will cheat ON you. It makes perfect sense!

 I would say that this is 98% true.  I did cheat on my dh, but that was soo many years ago.  Have not even thought about doing it again.


Loving19mommy92
by Silver Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:45 PM

I can't either but everyone is different.

Quoting Anonymous:

I can't imagine feeling like I wasted 9 years of my life.

Quoting Loving19mommy92:

She loved the man, had his kid. I wouldn't be sleeping with a married man but I understand, the woman is probably in a lot of pain over this. 



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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:51 PM

 

HAHA I TOTALLY WOULD IF I HAD THE CHANCE IN THIS ONE...CONTROL IS GOOD..ITS NOT REAL LOVE. GET WHAT YOU WANT.

Quoting Anonymous:

I agree. It's ridiculous all the talk about "control".... Relationships are not about controlling each other so why the fuck would you encourage a mistress to be a controlling bitch?

Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

 

I'm all for helping mistresses come right with the world and move on, but that is ridiculous.  Either way, the relationship ended and she can find a way to move on.

Quoting Anonymous:

Apparently she was supposed to lure him back in THEN break up with him herself. Lmao

Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

SMH

Making it sound as though mistresses are the victims!

Yes, there are con men out there, and I sincerely feel for women who are tricked by them.  But if you go into a relationship knowing he is married, no matter the circumstances, you aren't a victim.  You are someone making a poor choice, and risking hurting yourself.

You shouldn't have let him do that?  What was she supposed to do, blackmail him?  Start stalking and threatening?

 

 

 

 


 

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