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Is this right? Etiquette question.

Posted by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:17 PM
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Question: should a guest should help clean up

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a guest shouldn't be expected to help clean up, they are called guests for a reason.

guests should help, they ate your food and made a mess


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My MIL invites people over for a large dinner, and after the dinner is over and everything is done up, she begins talking about who is a good guest and who is a bad guest.  The good guest it seems are the ones that help her clean up and do the dishes for her the bad ones are the ones who just eat and  sit around and talk with each other.  I was raised that if you have guest, and they offer to help that's fine, but they are your guest and you shouldn't expect or ask them to help.  What do you think?

by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:17 PM
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norwgnwood
by Platinum Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:18 PM
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Mil is rude. I always offer to help and love when my guests do the same but in no way would I guilt them into it.
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lauren.m
by Platinum Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:18 PM
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A good guest offers a good host declines and does it herself
jillbailey26
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:19 PM

I never expect or ask my guests to help clean up.


"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification"  Romans 14:19

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:20 PM
Took the words right out of my mouth

Quoting lauren.m:

A good guest offers a good host declines and does it herself
LovelyMommy24
by Ruby Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:20 PM

Exactly like you said, they're called a guest for a reason.

disneymom2two
by Platinum Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:21 PM
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People raised with manners will offer to help but it would be bad manners to try to guilt them into it or talk badly about them.

anotherhalf
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:22 PM

I think it is rude for guests to just sit around and talk while the host cleans up.  I think its rude for the host to remark about the rudeness of her guests.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:22 PM

if my MIL pulled that shit, we wouldn't be inconveniencing her with our company again.

I am more than happy to help, but no guest should be expected to help clean up.  I can't imagine ever doling out chores to people I invited into my home.

tossed
by Platinum Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:23 PM

There should have been an "other" option. If it is a large family gathering, I think people should pitch in and help. I also think it depends on the age of the mil. If she is considerably older, I think people should pitch in. I ALWAYS offer to help...that is pretty normal here.

504bbymami
by Sapphire Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:24 PM
Exactly what I was going to say!


Quoting lauren.m:

A good guest offers a good host declines and does it herself

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