Lying and cheating b@stard! Update2; I'm home.

[Anonymous]

If I had a choice I'd still be gone. My sil came down for the weekend and my kids wanted to see her. Of course, my dh mentioned nothing about his mistress or anything. I was laying on the bed in massive pain and the mother f*cker had the audacity to feel me up. I got up and I was pissed. I went off on him. I yelled at him about how insensitive he is and how hurt and angry I am and how I know he's still talking to her. I never cried once in my tirade. He told me he'll talk to me when I'm not so angry and he went to work. Last night my friend forwarded me a bunch of texts. She was sending very explicit texts, it was straight up porn texting. About how they'd have sex and what she would do to him and what he'd do to her. Dh nearly came in his pants she got him so turned on. His text said he nearly came in his pants. He said he was sexually deprived. He then told her about how much he loves me and how I'm his everything. They were LONG texts. They texted from 9:30pm until 3am. I found out she is a stripped, I saw her pictures and she's beautiful and she's no more than 21. I'm 31 and I felt good about myself until then. My BFF has done a great job of sending me the texts without dh knowing she's forwarding them. I told her I don't want to see anymore. Those nasty texts were enough to make me want to stab him. She asked him if I know about her yet. He said yes and I'm cool with it since we are in an open marriage. This is my last update for a while. I need to find a lawyer and a place to stay for me and my kids. I'm devastated and I can't believe after 12 years of marriage and 3 kids he'd cheat on me. They have not physically had sex yet but I think what he's doing is having an emotional affair, is that right? Thanks for all your support. I need to go pack and find a hotel room for the next couple of nights until I find a place. I'll be able to update. My cell phone is my name and I pay the bill.



Update; my dh left me a voicemail. He was crying and pleading for me to forgive him. He said he loves me and the kids more than anything and he's nothing without us. He said he honestly thought it was me setting him up and he'd never do anything to hurt me. I didn't call him back. He tried turning it around on me this morning and he became angry at ME!



My BFF just forwarded me a text from the woman and dh replied. He didn't tell her to stop texting him, he keeps sending her texts. I'm done. He apparently doesn't care. Fuck him.









Edit; I didn't expect to get so many replies. We have 3 kids and I try and avoiding fighting in front of them. I just had surgery and I have a cast on my leg, our sex life went down hill because I'm in a lot of pain from the surgery but I never turned him away. . I won't be able to drive for another 6 weeks. I asked my friend to come help me pack some stuff and asked if I could stay at her house. My dh has no clue where she lives. Dh has sent me a few texts, he asked me if I'm ok (he doesn't know I know), I did reply and said "well... Did you answer her question? Do you think of her when we have sex?" He said she's been bothering him and that he doesn't know her. He only replied to her texts because he thought it was me or a friend of mine trying to catch him. I took a picture of my kids stuff and mine packed up and sent it to him. He sent me 1 back begging me not to leave and swearing up and down that he really did think it was me screwing around. I'm at my friends house and I shut my phone off. My kids asked me why we are staying at my friends house. My friend has a 2 week old baby that is colicky. I'm helping my friend out right now so she can get some sleep. My kids think we are here so I can help her out.


My friend doesn't live too far from me, it took her 10 mins to get here. I'll decide what to do about our 12 year marriage tonight. At this point I'm flipping back and forth between divorce or marriage counseling.


Thanks for the advice. I'll keep you all updated.





i saw a text on dh phone from a number I've never seen before. It said "do you picture me when you have sex with your wife?" Judging by the other texts they haven't had sex yet. He told her to text him after 9pm, that's when he goes to work. If you saw this text on your dh phone what would you do?







I didn't get a chance to confront him.. He left in a massive hurry. I have all night to contemplate what to do.

[2ltlmonkeyz]

I am sorry :( I would prob confront him with it !

[jillbailey26]

I'd ask him about it.  Unless you want to bother him while he's working, you'll have to wait until he gets home.

[PinkyPan]

I would not have let him walk out the door. He would have some explaining to do now!

[kissesxoxo8882]

 have his things outside when he gets home and lock him out 

[AF2011]

I would confront him. I would probably beat him if i read something like that.

[cherib82]

 HE would be needing to get a new phone after he pulled that one out of his ass piece by piece.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I'm not going to bother him at work. He has to be able to concentrate or he could mess up and get fired.

Quoting jillbailey26:

I'd ask him about it.  Unless you want to bother him while he's working, you'll have to wait until he gets home.

[Anonymous]

I would plot my escape route.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I wanted to so bad, but I was helping our son with his homework.

Quoting PinkyPan:

I would not have let him walk out the door. He would have some explaining to do now!

[NVL0707]

He wouldn't be my dh anymore.I don't deal with shit like that.Divorce would be filed asap.