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Woman's Intuition

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I don't even know why I'm making this post. I guess I just need to get my feelings out somehow. I won't get into our history, but my dh and I have been married 10 years and have 4 kids together. We've had major ups and downs, but it's been good 75% of the time.

Anyway, lately I've had this weird feeling like he's hiding something from me. He's never cheated on me before (that I know of at least), but something keeps telling me that I need to be suspicious. Little things he does just don't add up. Like he'll go to bed early because he's "exhausted and can't stay awake any longer", but then I'll go to put laundry away in our room an hour later only to find him laying on the bed on his phone supposedly reading to help him go to sleep.
He's supposed to get off work every day at 5, but lately they've been "having orders come in at the last minute", so he has to be an hour late.
Last Friday he was off work, so he was going to go to the gym. I asked that he not be gone longer than 2 hours because I wanted to spend quality time with him on his day off. 3 hours later I called him and he didn't answer, but he texted me saying "can't talk. I'll call you back". When he called me back 20 minutes later he said he was late because he'd run into a friend in the parking lot and got stuck talking and he didn't want to be rude and answer the phone.
Then, tonight I took the kids to church and I stayed too because I watch the nursery on Wednesday nights, so he gets Wednesday evenings to himself. He was supposed to go to my parent's house to change his oil (because they have a flat driveway and an oil pan he uses), but I called my mom just to talk and asked if he'd come yet or not and apparently he'd already texted my dad letting him know he wasn't coming because he already took care of it. When I asked dh about it, he said that his friend Billy called right after we left and said he could come do it at his house...how convenient...

I could sit here and list 20 more things that make me suspicious, but I know y'all don't have time to read it. I don't want to question him or accuse him until I've got good solid reason to and not just a weird feeling, but I don't know how to go about finding out if I'm just paranoid or if something fishy really is going on.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 24, 2013 at 1:28 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 24, 2013 at 1:12 PM
Technically I can follow him after work, but I'd have my kids with me and I don't want to involve them. I'm thinking about asking my sister to follow him.

Quoting Anonymous:

Doesn't look good. This is usually a sign. Call phone company ans find out the phone number asap. Text it from your phone and say you are borrowing a friend's phone and see what happens. I think you already know the answer its a matter of catching him red handed. Can you follow him after work?



Quoting Summerlion1123:

Okay now that IS weird.





Quoting Anonymous:

Oh, that was something else I meant to mention. Usually he is like a sex crazed maniac, following me around like a horny dog, but he hasn't asked for sex at all lately. Saturday night I initiated and we had sex but he didn't O for the first time since we've been together.







Quoting mommamaggi:

How's the sex lately?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 24, 2013 at 1:15 PM
Thanks. I'm so torn on what to do. If I talk to him and something is going on he'll obviously lie about it, but I feel like if I snoop and it's nothing then it will really hurt him :/

Quoting 1CopaceticMama:

don't snoop because what if he isn't doing anything wrong. Then it put a wrench into the whole marriage because you can't trust him enough just to ask. Granted, I think something is up to but I would be straight up blunt. Tell him that you have been noticing things, explain those things, and ask if he is with someone else. I hope its not for you and your childrens sake <3

Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Jan. 24, 2013 at 1:16 PM
It's not intuition...it's common sense. He's obviously up to no good.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Jan. 24, 2013 at 1:21 PM
A lot of phones have the option to save sent messages or save to the sim card. I did that with my ex on his phone and saw his side of the convos untill I could put his sim in my phone and read the whole conversation. They won't delete unless they know it's there. His sent folder was horrible.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 24, 2013 at 1:25 PM
How do I ho about doing this? I'm not too savvy with technical stuff lol.

Quoting Anonymous:

A lot of phones have the option to save sent messages or save to the sim card. I did that with my ex on his phone and saw his side of the convos untill I could put his sim in my phone and read the whole conversation. They won't delete unless they know it's there. His sent folder was horrible.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Jan. 24, 2013 at 1:29 PM
Check the messaging settings on his phone, all phones are different but some you can change the settings to save sent messages, If not try and save them all the the sim card. He can delete them from the phone but they'll be saved internally.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Jan. 24, 2013 at 1:29 PM
That isn't necessarily going to work. All he has to do is ask the other woman if she sent them. Especially if she KNOWS that she is the OW. Then you're right back to square one, except now he knows that you know something is up.

Quoting Anonymous:

Ha!! That's amazing!! I think I'll do it.



Quoting Anonymous:

Send a gift to his work and dont say your name just have a message like "I miss you baby" or something along those lines. If he doesn't mention anything about it then he doesn't know who it's from. If he doesn't know who its from then there's someone else
Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Jan. 24, 2013 at 1:30 PM
You said he calls and texts alot of numbers daily. okay... So if he was talking to "someone" that number would show up more frequent than the others?? Maybe??

And pay attention to the time. The ones sent when he is reading in bed. The ones right after work. The times you are not home.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 24, 2013 at 7:55 PM
That's true. Good thing I'm not a detective. I would suck lol!!

Quoting Anonymous:

That isn't necessarily going to work. All he has to do is ask the other woman if she sent them. Especially if she KNOWS that she is the OW. Then you're right back to square one, except now he knows that you know something is up.



Quoting Anonymous:

Ha!! That's amazing!! I think I'll do it.





Quoting Anonymous:

Send a gift to his work and dont say your name just have a message like "I miss you baby" or something along those lines. If he doesn't mention anything about it then he doesn't know who it's from. If he doesn't know who its from then there's someone else
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 24, 2013 at 7:56 PM
Oh, good idea. Thank you!!
Quoting Anonymous:

You said he calls and texts alot of numbers daily. okay... So if he was talking to "someone" that number would show up more frequent than the others?? Maybe??



And pay attention to the time. The ones sent when he is reading in bed. The ones right after work. The times you are not home.
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