Hey Moms, how is your relationship with your own mother? How has it changed since you became a mom?
Growing up I thought my mother was the worst. She was so strict and unyielding. I felt like she didn't listen to me. When I was really little she was great, but about the time I hit 9 and on until after I was 20 it wasn't the greatest relationship. If I didn't get A's and B's on my report cards I got lectures and groundings. If I whined about things I got extra chores. She spanked us as kids, but only when we'd really done something wrong. However, she was also one of our greatest supporters. If we wanted to join a sport she encouraged us. She also showed excitement for our talents (mine is writing) and she would do little things to ecourage us to keep working on our talents. My oldest brother is a perfectionist but also loved to be artistic. He'd draw these really complex designs and patterns and so my mother would buy him the supplies to do it with and scoured our town for a book about that type of art to show my brother that a career could be had from it, if he so chose to go that path. Me, she found writing classes for, paid for them, and encouraged me in my writing at all times.
About a year before I met my DH my mom and I started becoming close and she is now one of my best friends. I love to just hang out and talk with her. In fact, we talk on the phone almost every day. Since I've become a mom 5 years ago I've come to see why she was strict and how that kept me in line. I don't plan on following exactly in her footsteps, but I do take her advice and think it over. Sometimes it works for my family, sometimes it isn't right for us, but I rarely outright ignore her advice. I'm not as strict as she was, my SD doesn't have nearly as many chores as I did at her age, and sometimes I think I am being too soft, but I also firmly believe that kids need to be kids...not little house slaves. I definitely encourage and support my kiddos the way my mother did us.