Lately things have been really quiet as far as dealing with BM and to be honest it's been nice not to have any drama. Out of the blue I get a call from her parents number this morning at 6am (DH has maintained a good relationship with BMs parents for the sake of SD and they have my number because SD is with me during the day while DH works - BMs dad is in poor health so I assumed something had happened). Instead it was BM and she says to me that she's been trying to call DH because she needs help to pay her cell phone bill of $125 and he won't pick up the phone. It's been turned off since the 15th and she's having to call from her parents place. She needs to be able to talk to SD whenever she wants to and to be available if something should happen to her and as SD's father he needs to ensure that she can.
I know exactly what DH is going to tell her. To get a job and pay for her own crap. DH has literally given her about $15,000 ontop of child support until he found out it was going towards drugs. Chance after chance she pissed away the money and opportunity. Now she's expecting DH to pay for her phone bill? I'm not going to lie that it irritated me to have her call me and at 6 am but it made me even more annoyed that she was asking for money, claiming that DH is responsible for ensuring that she has a phone.
I politely said "I understand your frustrations but I'm not really sure what to tell you." At that point she started cussing telling me to stop being a "bitch" and to just tell DH to f-ing call her at her parents place and the number was bla bla bla. I had to bite my tongue at this point and I said "BM, I'm not here to be cussed at, I don't care to hear it or be a part of it and I'm hanging up the phone." and I did. She's now called me 8 times in an hour and a half.
Was I out of line? Why does she think that it's DHs responsibility to provide BM with a phone when there is nothing in the CO that says that?