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I worked for CPS for years-ask me questions UPDATE

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I will NOT talk about any specific cases but if you have general questions-Go ahead and ask.

If this gets too crazy I will take this post down.

UPDATE-

Thank you ladies for being kind to each other and keeping this post civil-I have to go to work-I am on post 141-and will try to get through the rest (right now there is 165 posts and I am sure many more)  I will try to answer all of your questions within the next day or two-

Thank you-


Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:08 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 89 on Apr. 2, 2013 at 5:08 PM

I home school our  children five days a week,  follow the state requirements regarding what subjects to teach, and do not vaccinate.  What are my chances of CPS giving me a difficult time for the parental decisions I have made in raising my children.  Another words, if a neighbor who does not like that I home school calls on me, will CPS come to our home?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:36 AM


not for those reasons-NO  

Quoting Anonymous:

I home school our  children five days a week,  follow the state requirements regarding what subjects to teach, and do not vaccinate.  What are my chances of CPS giving me a difficult time for the parental decisions I have made in raising my children.  Another words, if a neighbor who does not like that I home school calls on me, will CPS come to our home?



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:39 AM


YES!!!!

Quoting sunshine7890:

My stepkids biomom has been on drugs for the past three years. My husband and I have primary residential custody and I have been mom to my stepkids for these past three because of her addiction and lack of responsiblity. When her and husband were married and he was deployed to Iraq...there were TWO times that the Family Adocavy Program had to step-in because the house was NASTY!!! Those two times she was given seven days to clean up the house or the kids would be taken away. She has another son that is being cared for by her brother and his wife because she did not have anywhere to keep him..(she was homeless at one point). So fast-forward three years... she is now in a relationship with a guy and just delivered twin boys. She kept lieing to my husband and I stating she was clean. Come to find out she wasn't clean and the hospital wouldn't release her twins unless she enrolled in a alcohol and drug program. The twin's were born addicts and were in the NICU due to withdrawals of pain killers. My husband and I are concerned she will put those twins in danger like she did his kids... and we don't feel she is stable enough to care for these innnocent little babies. We are not sure CPS knows her entire history and I was wondering do u think it's advisable to contact the CPS department in the state that she lives in to give them are her prior incidents regarding drugs and having her kids in her care?




Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:40 AM



YES!!!!

Quoting sunshine7890:

My stepkids biomom has been on drugs for the past three years. My husband and I have primary residential custody and I have been mom to my stepkids for these past three because of her addiction and lack of responsiblity. When her and husband were married and he was deployed to Iraq...there were TWO times that the Family Adocavy Program had to step-in because the house was NASTY!!! Those two times she was given seven days to clean up the house or the kids would be taken away. She has another son that is being cared for by her brother and his wife because she did not have anywhere to keep him..(she was homeless at one point). So fast-forward three years... she is now in a relationship with a guy and just delivered twin boys. She kept lieing to my husband and I stating she was clean. Come to find out she wasn't clean and the hospital wouldn't release her twins unless she enrolled in a alcohol and drug program. The twin's were born addicts and were in the NICU due to withdrawals of pain killers. My husband and I are concerned she will put those twins in danger like she did his kids... and we don't feel she is stable enough to care for these innnocent little babies. We are not sure CPS knows her entire history and I was wondering do u think it's advisable to contact the CPS department in the state that she lives in to give them are her prior incidents regarding drugs and having her kids in her care?





Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:44 AM

Ask the caseworker what you can and can't bring-Just enjoy your children and try not to be too nervous--be interested in your children-what they have been doing-focus on the kids--

It depends on the child how they may react-they may be sad, mad, or glad--just understand the children are going through a lot too and do not get mad at them feeling however way they are feeling-just enjoy the visit with your kids--


Quoting zdennis:

My husband and i have our 1st supervised visit since cps took our kids away what should we expect at the visitation and what r we allowed to bring?



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:50 AM

Yes they can--it depends on the situation


Quoting Anonymous:

If I had a case and had it closed bc I signed my rights over to a family member and let them adopt do they have a right to come in and try to open a case with my new child when I give birth?



jb0520
by Platinum Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:52 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:52 AM


no-not if kids are being watched by a sitter-appropriate-

Quoting Anonymous:

Can children be taken away if the mother takes them to the sitter alot to go out and have a good time? Maybe bring someone home, but the children not there?



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:54 AM

Quoting Anonymous:

how many times have you been involved in cases where a little girl (say 7 yrs old) says her daddy touched her inappropriately, but you couldn't do anything  because the court said that she's not a "credible source" because of her age....?  does this happen a lot??? because it happened to us.............................  what would you suggest I do as a mother...??  we have a restraining order for one year, and she testified in court, in front of me and her father..........  i'd say pm me, but i don't want to expose my identity


yes that does happen-you as a mom will always believe in your children-be strong for her and get her and you and other family members appropriate counseling --take care
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:55 AM


are you saying will CYS be involved?  no-

Quoting marilyn623:

What about unassisted birth?
Does it make a difference if mom got prenatal care?



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