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I try not to judge but this just pissed me off!!

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My friend and I have known each other for over 5 years. For as long as she can remember, doctors told her that she wasn't able to get pregnant......something having to do with her cervix.....or ovaries. I'm not sure.

Anyhow........she got together with her, now, husband and they got pregnant. I thought that, right there, was a miracle.

So all throughout her pregnancy she was telling me how she was going to breastfeed.

Her and her husband don't have a lot of money since they take care of her step daughter and her younger sister.

She has a big family and her family is there for support and we gave her a baby shower and she got a lot of nice things for the baby. And her family helps her out when they can. They bought her things for the baby throughout her pregnancy.

I told her since my son is 7 months old that I would give her his clothes since she was having a baby boy.

Well she had her baby last week.

This is the part that pisses me off, not only did she smoke throughout her entire pregnancy but as soon as she got home from the hospital she put her son on formula.

She breastfed while in the hospital telling me she was going to continue breastfeeding when she was home.

Nothing is wrong with her or the baby that would cause her to stop. Nothing!! They are totally healthy.

I never once said a word to her about how much I'm against pregnant women who smoke and women who decide to formula feed just because they want to.

I don't plan on telling her. Like I said in my title I try really hard not to judge but this whole thing just pisses me off!!

The thing that is really sad is this is her MIRACLE baby and this is the shit she is doing to him. If I had a miracle baby, I would take the extra step to make sure that he would be as healthy as possible. Because she smoked throughout her pregnancy, now there's a high risk of that baby having asthma.

I'm so pissed at her, not only will I NOT give her my sons clothes, but I refuse to be her friend any longer!! She doesn't deserve it because she is selfish!!

Vent over.

=)

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:31 AM
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MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:33 AM
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 She has every right to feed HER son how she wants to. You are not the breastfeeding police.

carterscutie85
by Queen Bee on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:33 AM
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Wow, I'm glad you're not my *friend*...



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:34 AM
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Okay, the smoking is bad, but it doesnt sound like that is what set you off, it sounds like its the formula. Who cares how she feeds a baby, so long as he is fed. You need to get over yourself, you sound like a terrible friend
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:36 AM

what right do you have to tell someone how to feed their kid you know i did the same i did breastfeed my son in the hospital when i got home neither one of us could figure it out and i was tiried so he drank formula  but your not a true friend

Logan_Bellasmom
by Platinum Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:38 AM
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You know what they say about friends like you......

VannaMae307
by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:39 AM

There may be some things you don't agree with but in the end it is her decision, as her friend you can either support it, or keep your mouth shut. Trust me, I have friends that I have had to bite my tongue over when it comes to various things...but it is her decision, you can try to educate her on the benefits of breastfeeding and see if she tries to lactate again, or you can just support her in her current decision to formula feed.

redneckmama4
by Loree on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:39 AM
While I can see where you are comin from, a friend is a friend and you can't dictate her life.
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beerabitch69
by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:40 AM
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I FF my boys, ya know why? Because I had no desire to BF.

mlg1989
by ZombieMegg on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:40 AM
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Are people not allowed to change their minds?
Maybe breastfeeding hurt her and after actually experiencing it she hated it and didn't want to continue?
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laranadtony
by Ruby Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:41 AM
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I talked to her. Said "good riddance! You were too bossy anyway!"

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