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Would you let your kids call you by your name?

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Parents Who Let Kids Call Them by Their First Names Are Giving Up Something Special

Posted by Jacqueline Burt on January 23, 2013 

mom shirtI was chatting with another mom friend recently when the topic of kids who call their parents by their first names -- you know, instead of "mom" or "dad." We both agreed that it's sort of cute when little kids fall into the habit accidentally, like a 2-year-old cousin of mine who used to call her dad "Bill." There was just something hilarious about the way her odd choice played into everyday conversation: "And then I went to the park with Mommy and Bill, and then Bill pushed me on the swing, and then Mommy said no ice cream but Bill said okay!"

If you didn't know better, you'd wonder if maybe Mommy wasn't having an affair with this "Bill" character. Anyway, we also agreed that hearing a teen calling her dad "Bill" (or her mom "Kate" or whatever) is a different sort of animal altogether. I'm not sure how I would feel about my 11-year-old, for example, calling me by my first name. On the one hand, what's the big deal?

What difference does it really make? On the other, it's the kind of seemingly trivial thing that can end up meaning so much more.

Some parents I know would take their kid calling them by name as a sign of disrespect, which I guess I understand. But for me, I think it would be more about ... loss. Like being demoted, or something. When you think about it, you're going to call pretty much every single person you meet in your entire life by name. Besides teachers, doctors, dentists, police officers and people in the military or clergy, that is. And even then, there's the possibility of overlap. You might meet more than one Mr. Franklin or Dr. Shapiro over the years ... but in the vast majority of cases, you only get one (maybe two) people designated as Mom or Dad.

I don't want to miss out on being one of those people, especially when I already am one of those people. If you know what I mean. I had the kids. I am a mom. I am THEIR mom. If the shoe fits, call a spade a spade? Oh, you know what I mean.

Would you let your kids call you by your name?

by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 1:54 PM
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lizzyluvsmoe
by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 2:47 PM

No

gonecrazi
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 2:47 PM

 Nope.

Roo1234
by Platinum Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 2:48 PM

All of our kids went through a stage, and while I didn't fight it, I did tell them that there aren't many people who have the privledge of calling me mom and they should think really hard if they want to be like everyone else who has to call me by my given name, or if they wanted to feel special and do smoething that no one else was allowed to do.

Pretty much the conversation would end the foray into testing out the first name thing.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 24, 2013 at 2:52 PM
1 mom liked this
I think it's disrespectful for a child to call his parents by their first names (with the possible exception of step-parents).
MamaHens3
by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 3:11 PM

ogree! 


Quoting Anonymous:

I think it's disrespectful for a child to call his parents by their first names (with the possible exception of step-parents).



chattycassie
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 3:12 PM

 I dont think so I have never called my mom or dad by thier names. They are mom and dad

DiANAiVELiSSE
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 3:21 PM

 NO way! I am the mother - it's Diana to the rest of the world!

marissa615
by Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 3:28 PM

 when my mom really pisses me off I call her by her first name

i wouldn't like dd to call me by my first name, I earned the MOMMY name

lazydayz
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 3:29 PM

Um, NO... that is disrespectful!

prettymomma1204
by Bronze Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 3:33 PM
My SD gave me a nickname way back when we met. She was two. It meant (and still does) the world to me. at about 4 she started calling me by my first name. it made me want to cry but I accepted it. That lasted all of 2 weeks and we were back to normal =)
My DS is almost 2 and calls me Momma or Mommy. He may change because sister and Daddy call me different things. I hope not.
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