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If I was wrong I'll go apologize.

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DH left the light on on the stairs.

I turned it off.

He said "leave it on, it's dark without it."

I said "youngest kid is 8, and perfectly capable of finding a light switch. The light will shine in our room and I know this is silly but it's really bright and bothers me. Can we please leave it off?

DH said "I said leave it on."

I said "that's why I have a nite light plugged in on the stairs, so there is some light but not enough to keep me up. its such a small thing but us important to me."

DH said "the bulb is burned out."

So, I replaced the bulb.

DH got mad and said "you just HAVE to make me wrong, I'm sleeping on the couch!"

I said "no, I wasn't trying to do that at all. I'm just trying to find a good solution for both of us. it's called compromise. I give a little. You give a little."

He was like "no it's just all about you! You you you!"

I said, " If I had my way there would be no light. You want a light, so I did the smaller bulb in the night light. If you want, we can just sleep with our door closed and put the big light on."

He said "I'm not sleeping with you, all you care about is yourself."

So I got mad and told him not to bother coming to bed at all, if he wants to punish me for trying to compromise, well he can just stay out there until he remembers I'm not one of the children, and he can't punish me like I am.

If you think I'm wrong, tell me and I'll apologize.
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Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:43 PM
Replies (321-330):
Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:04 PM


'someone' once upon a time the  mistress of a guy that pulled this stuff to get away to see me.

starting fights for stupid reasons is a big sign. they start fights as a excuse to storm out when they are supposed to be with the mistress.

I don't mean that it's her fault that he needs more blow jobs, just that he's being a baby, and could have other reasons for doing all this.


Quoting Anonymous:

Someone's projecting....


Quoting Anonymous:

from what I've seen, most of the time guys go on about all you care about it yourself, what they really mean is:

  • you don't give me enough blow jobs, or if you do, you don't let me cum in your mouth 
  • I don't get enough sex or the kind that I really want
  • I'm having a affair, she has made me think that she puts me first vs you and I'm trying to make you feel bad for not being what I want.



FooLynRoo
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:05 PM

If he wants the light on, leave it on and wear  a mask.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:06 PM


could be. sometimes the reason is that they want to start a stupid fight as a excuse to storm out because he's late for a date with her.

seems that once they start getting in the mindset that they are SO under appreciated once they have someone else. they get this big dream that 'she wouldn't treat me this way' when she probably would in time.

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm thinking it might be the last one.


Quoting Anonymous:

from what I've seen, most of the time guys go on about all you care about it yourself, what they really mean is:

  • you don't give me enough blow jobs, or if you do, you don't let me cum in your mouth 
  • I don't get enough sex or the kind that I really want
  • I'm having a affair, she has made me think that she puts me first vs you and I'm trying to make you feel bad for not being what I want.



model1000mom
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:08 PM

You are right 

Thelmama
by Ruby Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:10 PM

Sounds like he is being a cranky child. You were trying to compromise. He sounds like he was looking for a fight. I can't sleep with a lot of light either so I understand where you are coming from. Thankfully my dh doesn't mind.

jkleinman
by Ruby Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:20 PM


Quoting skittlefart:

Sounds like someone is on his manperiod...

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:21 PM
Everyone assumed I own one.

How can I wear something I don't own?


Quoting FooLynRoo:

If he wants the light on, leave it on and wear  a mask.



FooLynRoo
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:22 PM


DEAL with a bit of light for one night - I know its tough its like being in prison im sure, and go out and BUY one they are 5 bucks, if you need the money let me know ill give it to you.

OR

Sit there and fight with your husband and sleep seperate and make a huge deal out of a little freaking light.

Your choice.


Quoting Anonymous:

Everyone assumed I own one.

How can I wear something I don't own?


Quoting FooLynRoo:

If he wants the light on, leave it on and wear  a mask.





Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:26 PM
I was not about to go to the store in an ice storm at 11pm Last night just to buy an eye mask.

And, I'm genuinely asking here, why was it wrong for me to explain how I gelt and ask for a compromise. Keep in mind that he has never said he wanted it on before and he wasn't clear about his intentions. He never even told me he wanted it on until I was tucking in the house.

I really want to know so I don't do it again. Why was the right thing to do to do what he wanted without expressing my feelings?


Quoting FooLynRoo:


DEAL with a bit of light for one night - I know its tough its like being in prison im sure, and go out and BUY one they are 5 bucks, if you need the money let me know ill give it to you.

OR

Sit there and fight with your husband and sleep seperate and make a huge deal out of a little freaking light.

Your choice.



Quoting Anonymous:

Everyone assumed I own one.



How can I wear something I don't own?





Quoting FooLynRoo:

If he wants the light on, leave it on and wear  a mask.








FooLynRoo
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:34 PM

I didn't say go to the store in an ice storm, I said to suck it up for one night.

and buy the eye mask today.

The reason you're in the wrong is because you were unwilling to compromise although it made 0 difference, you are lying if you say that you would not be able to sleep because of a hall light.

FOR ONE NIGHT.

It was obviously important to him, and you just kept pushing and pushing to get your way.
That's whats wrong.

Really it wouldn't hurt ANYONE to just say okay  you want the light on , its important lets leave it on.

You allowed it to blow up into what it was.

 


Quoting Anonymous:

I was not about to go to the store in an ice storm at 11pm Last night just to buy an eye mask.

And, I'm genuinely asking here, why was it wrong for me to explain how I gelt and ask for a compromise. Keep in mind that he has never said he wanted it on before and he wasn't clear about his intentions. He never even told me he wanted it on until I was tucking in the house.

I really want to know so I don't do it again. Why was the right thing to do to do what he wanted without expressing my feelings?


Quoting FooLynRoo:


DEAL with a bit of light for one night - I know its tough its like being in prison im sure, and go out and BUY one they are 5 bucks, if you need the money let me know ill give it to you.

OR

Sit there and fight with your husband and sleep seperate and make a huge deal out of a little freaking light.

Your choice.



Quoting Anonymous:

Everyone assumed I own one.



How can I wear something I don't own?





Quoting FooLynRoo:

If he wants the light on, leave it on and wear  a mask.










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