I know its not rational but... ETA

[Anonymous]

Okay, I'll try to keep it short.  Dh works in a resturant.  I found a girls bracelet in his pants pocket.  He's a manager and he says that while at work, she's a cook, and he reminded her no bracelets w. charms - but she had on gloves so she asked him to take it off. he did and put it in his pocket to give it back to her before she left, but he forgot.  I didn't give it back to him.  I was going to take it and pawn it.  I hid it for a while then put it in the change pocket of my wallet so I wouldn't forget next time I was out, but I did.  Then I got a new purse and left my wallet in the old one.  Then I lost the old one.  I knew it was somewhere in the house so I didn't really worry about it.  I just found it tonight and the bracelet is gone.  I'm sure he found it and gave it back to her.  I'm super pissed.  I know I sound stupid, this is just how I feel, I'm just at my wits end.  ugh.

So when dh got home last night we talked about all of this.  He admitted that he had found the bracelet but that he hadn't given it back to her, and he gave it back to me.  Due to some of the ladies advice on here I told him to give it back to her.  I still don't feel good about the whole thing and I love how some of you are coming off (need to post anon more often, get to see new sides to people)  I want to thank the few that were able to keep it kind, and not be ugly/hateful/completely unproductive.  I'm sure the rest of you have never done anything wrong or stupid, never overreacted or acted outta pocket for any reasons.

[Stephd710]

How old are you?

[Anonymous]

No comment

[zianneaaliyah]

So instead of being upfront and honest to your husband about your insecurities, you pretty much don't care about being a passive aggressive bitch? Do you happen to always act this miserable?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

You are a bitch. That would be stealing.

why'd you post anon?  yea, I can be a bitch, but I'm not one in general.  I'm not perfect by far and don't claim to be.  I think they we're messing around and thats how he got her bracelet.  I'm not saying I was right, obviously its not something I feel really good about, but I really don't feel terribly bad either if thats how he got it.

[Anonymous]

I get it- he's cheated before yada yada yada. You keep saying he put HER feelings over yours- ummm not exactly, he put his JOB, and doing the RIGHT thing over your paranoia. Lets just say for arguments sake he was telling the truth- maybe he didn't ask about it because he forgot about it? Maybe his employee also forgot about it over the next few days. Even if she asked him about it later it is still possible he forgot about it by the time he got home. Would I, if I were her, mention the bracelet to you? No, probably not. It is possible that during that conversation she wasn't thinking about it or that it wasn't between you an her it was between him (her manager) and her- why would I ask you- you have nothing to do with it. You seem to be okay with stealing something from someone who may have not done a thing to you!

Lets just say for arguments sake he is banging the cook- as multiple people pointed out you don't have to take off a bracelet to have sex...but that STILL doesn't give you permission to steal. And again he did the right thing by giving it back if that is what happened.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting zianneaaliyah:

So instead of being upfront and honest to your husband about your insecurities, you pretty much don't care about being a passive aggressive bitch? Do you happen to always act this miserable?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

You are a bitch. That would be stealing.

why'd you post anon?  yea, I can be a bitch, but I'm not one in general.  I'm not perfect by far and don't claim to be.  I think they we're messing around and thats how he got her bracelet.  I'm not saying I was right, obviously its not something I feel really good about, but I really don't feel terribly bad either if thats how he got it.

dh already knows about my insecurities due to his exploits - and I did tell him I had the bracelet.   No, I haven't always been this miserable, it took a good couple of years of his various cheating/lying/hurting to get me there.

[Jessica_Esqueda]

Lol glad I could help.

Quoting Kaelaasmom:

I almost woke my husband up laughing at this.

Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

Divorce him, quick! You know that bracelet belonged to her dead grandma and it was a token of her love for him. She probably rubbed it in her snatch juice and everything and now she's marked her territory on your husband!

[krayzbabylove]

What exactly did he do wrong?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting anotherhalf:

You are pissed because he did the right thing and you couldn't do the wrong thing. Priceless.

I don't think he did the right thing, at all.

[krayzbabylove]

So why stay, what is the point in staying?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting zianneaaliyah:

So instead of being upfront and honest to your husband about your insecurities, you pretty much don't care about being a passive aggressive bitch? Do you happen to always act this miserable?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

You are a bitch. That would be stealing.

why'd you post anon?  yea, I can be a bitch, but I'm not one in general.  I'm not perfect by far and don't claim to be.  I think they we're messing around and thats how he got her bracelet.  I'm not saying I was right, obviously its not something I feel really good about, but I really don't feel terribly bad either if thats how he got it.

dh already knows about my insecurities due to his exploits - and I did tell him I had the bracelet.   No, I haven't always been this miserable, it took a good couple of years of his various cheating/lying/hurting to get me there.

[zianneaaliyah]

Then it's not irrational for you to feel this way, but it's irrational as hell to feel this way willingly! Why are you still with him?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting zianneaaliyah:

So instead of being upfront and honest to your husband about your insecurities, you pretty much don't care about being a passive aggressive bitch? Do you happen to always act this miserable?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

You are a bitch. That would be stealing.

why'd you post anon?  yea, I can be a bitch, but I'm not one in general.  I'm not perfect by far and don't claim to be.  I think they we're messing around and thats how he got her bracelet.  I'm not saying I was right, obviously its not something I feel really good about, but I really don't feel terribly bad either if thats how he got it.

dh already knows about my insecurities due to his exploits - and I did tell him I had the bracelet.   No, I haven't always been this miserable, it took a good couple of years of his various cheating/lying/hurting to get me there.

[KG34]

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting KG34:

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting KG34:

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting anotherhalf:

You are pissed because he did the right thing and you couldn't do the wrong thing. Priceless.

I don't think he did the right thing, at all.

How is it wrong for him to return something to its rightful owner?

Because in my opinion (however warped it may be) thats putting her feelings before mine.  He knew what I felt about it so he should've just let sleeping dogs lie, so to speak. Its been months.

You need therapy.

no doubt.  you don't think what he did was at all wrong?

No, I don't think he did anything wrong.