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I know its not rational but... ETA

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Okay, I'll try to keep it short.  Dh works in a resturant.  I found a girls bracelet in his pants pocket.  He's a manager and he says that while at work, she's a cook, and he reminded her no bracelets w. charms - but she had on gloves so she asked him to take it off. he did and put it in his pocket to give it back to her before she left, but he forgot.  I didn't give it back to him.  I was going to take it and pawn it.  I hid it for a while then put it in the change pocket of my wallet so I wouldn't forget next time I was out, but I did.  Then I got a new purse and left my wallet in the old one.  Then I lost the old one.  I knew it was somewhere in the house so I didn't really worry about it.  I just found it tonight and the bracelet is gone.  I'm sure he found it and gave it back to her.  I'm super pissed.  I know I sound stupid, this is just how I feel, I'm just at my wits end.  ugh.

So when dh got home last night we talked about all of this.  He admitted that he had found the bracelet but that he hadn't given it back to her, and he gave it back to me.  Due to some of the ladies advice on here I told him to give it back to her.  I still don't feel good about the whole thing and I love how some of you are coming off (need to post anon more often, get to see new sides to people)  I want to thank the few that were able to keep it kind, and not be ugly/hateful/completely unproductive.  I'm sure the rest of you have never done anything wrong or stupid, never overreacted or acted outta pocket for any reasons.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:39 PM
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by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:00 AM
Oh my head hurts from the insanity running rampant on CM today. Is this real? Like really real? Agh I need a drink.
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:00 AM

Quoting Mrs.Pedro:

You two really need some counseling. You're not going to gain back trust in him if you think something as simple as this with no other signs(that you've mentioned) is him cheating.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Mrs.Pedro:

Trust issues much? Why would you go pawn it off anyways? Then you end up making your hubby look like a thief rather than him just being a good boss.

I abslolutely do have trust issues, with good reason. Honestly I don't care if I made him look bad but I felt like he was lying to me about why he had it.

we've been to counseling, and this alone is not why I think he may have cheated or close.  when I said 'with good reason',. lets just say it goes far back.

by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:01 AM
Oh the horror of being with an honest man!
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:02 AM
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Last time I checked you don't have to take your bracelet off to do have sex or fool around, you are crazy
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by Anonymous 8 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:02 AM
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You are insane

I hope he DID take the bracelet back and return it to its rightful owner. You had absolutely NO right to keep it and try to pawn it

If you act like this a lot your hubby WILL cheat on you because you are BATSHIT CRAZY!!!

by Anonymous 9 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:02 AM
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it was hers. You had no right to pawn something that isn't yours... what a crazy bitch... your poor hubby

by Anonymous 10 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:02 AM
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Wow...... you are 3 gallons of crazy in a 2 gallon bucket.

I can't believe that you are pissed off at your husband for doing the right thing after being pissed off at him because you think he was doing something wrong. Basically no matter which way he moved in this situation you were gonna fry his nut sack so he might as well of given this girl her bracelet back. At least he can feel good about himself knowing that he didn't let his psycho bitch wife steal from a girl via his pocket.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:02 AM

Quoting Always1222:

Hmm...well it sounds more like your concern was that he got the bracelet in a different way then he said. Is that why you wanted to pawn it? If he did get it through cheating or something of the like I could understand, however if you guys have a strong relationship then I don't understand....Hope it all works out though.

yes!! thank you! he has cheated in the past, and even recently been doing some things a married man shouldn't be doing w. a coworker (innapropriate texting) and I know alot of people would say I should just leave but I decided to try and work things out.  Its hard building trust though after repeated issues.  

by Anonymous 11 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:03 AM

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

You are a bitch. That would be stealing.

why'd you post anon?  yea, I can be a bitch, but I'm not one in general.  I'm not perfect by far and don't claim to be.  I think they we're messing around and thats how he got her bracelet.  I'm not saying I was right, obviously its not something I feel really good about, but I really don't feel terribly bad either if thats how he got it.

I don't get it. His explanation actually makes perfect sense, not them messing around. Why would he need to remove her bracelet to fuck her?

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:03 AM

Quoting KG34:

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting KG34:

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting anotherhalf:

You are pissed because he did the right thing and you couldn't do the wrong thing. Priceless.

I don't think he did the right thing, at all.

How is it wrong for him to return something to its rightful owner?

Because in my opinion (however warped it may be) thats putting her feelings before mine.  He knew what I felt about it so he should've just let sleeping dogs lie, so to speak. Its been months.

You need therapy.

no doubt.  you don't think what he did was at all wrong?

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