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SO is out of town for work. Won't be back for at least a week. My neighbor wants me to go out with her Saturday to a dj/karaoke party in a town 30 minutes away. She is willing to pay her 18 year old niece to stay with my kids, buy my drinks, and get the hotel room.

So I asked SO if I could go. He said " why are you asking, you are grown, kids are taking care of, go". I just feel it would be disrespectful of me to go without making sure he was OK with it.

Would you ask in this situation, or just go?

by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:14 AM
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wissotamum
by Silver Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:25 AM
I would discuss it with him, but I wouldn't seek permission, just his opinion. He might take issue with an overnight with a babysitter the girls haven't met before, or some other concern. He'd give me his opinion, then I'd make a decision.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:25 AM
I do not ask his permission for anything. I will give him a heads up, and let him know.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:25 AM
Lol.....okay then!


Quoting Anonymous:


No. 


Quoting Anonymous:

So nobody is allowed to be drunk on a Thursday?





Quoting Anonymous:


I hope your kids are with a sitter now since you're drunk. On a Thursday. 



Quoting reaandiziesmama:

The babysitter? Hell I don't know. I'm half a pint into rum. Forgive my typo

Quoting Anonymous:

What are the kids taking care of?












reaandiziesmama
by Platinum Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:25 AM

Nope. They are asleep and just fine. Didn't know, at almost 32, there were certian days I could drink lmao!! Do you want the number to cps in my state?

Quoting Anonymous:


I hope your kids are with a sitter now since you're drunk. On a Thursday. 

Quoting reaandiziesmama:

The babysitter? Hell I don't know. I'm half a pint into rum. Forgive my typo

Quoting Anonymous:

What are the kids taking care of?





mommaoftwo
by Silver Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:25 AM

I usually ask if he would mind

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:25 AM

I would ask, not so much for permission,  I mean if you just went wouldn't he wonder where you were?   If I'm taking the kids with me and going out and know I will be back home around the time he gets home or a little later I don't bother to ask.

Tay06
by Silver Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:26 AM

I would let my SO I was going somewhere but no I wouldn't ask.  

JZB
by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:27 AM
I wouldn't ask permission but I would ask what he thought of it
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:27 AM

 I definitely let my So know where I am going. It's kind of a respect thing in my relationship like yours is. My so knows where I am going, who I am with, and what time I go. It's not that he's jealous, controling, or even really mad when I go out. When he knows where I am at and who I am with it makes it easier for him not to worry if I don't answer my phone or when I am not home (usually I am)

lovinglife0682
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:27 AM
Wow. Don't let that stop you.


Quoting Hyman:

I know. It really put me off. I have been a mother for 17 mo now and decided its time to meet new people and maybe make a friend and try something new and he got all freaked out.



It was the first time I have attempted to branch out lol.




Quoting lovinglife0682:

Why? That sounds controlling.






Quoting Hyman:

Yes. And Dh would say no, lol







He has been out of town and I mentioned I'm going to a knitting class to learn and he got all mad and upset and said he was hurt I didn't tell him ...







So probably won't mention anything to him ever again.



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