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HOW you feed your baby is completely up to you. As long as you hold him/her and feed him/her and love him/her, you are a great parent. Do not let anyone tell you how to feed your baby. Agree?

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 4:34 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:50 AM
not a Fact!


Quoting Anonymous:

Well they SHOULD. And and that's not an opinion, that's a fact.




Quoting happy41ce:

That's not your place. They DON'T have to try nursing.


Btw I breast feed. Comments like this irk me.






Quoting Anonymous:

Sure. As long as they TRY nursing first... Then the choice is theirs.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:50 AM
I agree it 100% does turn them off breastfeeding. I BF my kids in the beginning and I remember when I started havinvg troubles and my milk was drying up.

All the BF nazi's I turned to for help were just so damn demeaning about everything. All it made me want to do was give up. When my milk officially dried up, I was pretty sad, & then I was relieved!

(-new anon)

Quoting mylovey:

I agree. I think some mothers think that if you breastfeed, you are instantly a superior parent. So much more goes into parenting; it is not just about how you feed your baby. Maybe what we should be focusing on is why in our society we view breastfeeding the way that we view it. I can tell you right now being rude about a mothers choice to formula feed doesn't make her more likely to change her mind in regards to breastfeeding. It turns people off to breastfeeding, and it makes them defensive.

Quoting Anonymous:

And the best thing for the baby is for it's mommy to be happy and confident in the care she is giving her baby. Just because she may choose to FF without even trying to BF doesn't make her an inferior parent  to someone who chooses to BF.

Is BF better then FFing...Yes without question but a baby can be just as happy and thriving on FF as a BF child as long as they have the love and nurturing from their parents that every child deserves. Stop being a jerk and have a nice day



Quoting Anonymous:

Once again, it's not about the mother. It's about the baby.





Quoting Anonymous:

Just because you are FFing your child doesn't mean your giving them the bare minimum of care. I both FF and BF my children and there was no difference in the amount/quality of care that I gave the ones I FF in compared to the ones I was actually able to BF. I think that is a horrible kind of guilt to lay on a new mother. Why force a mom to do something she hates just because you think it's "the right thing to do"...why put the bonding experience at risk by putting any negative feelings in something that should be so special just because they're not being fed the way YOU think they should.


Quoting Anonymous:

Because its about your baby, not YOU. Being "cared for" and doing the bare minimum should not be ok for our children.








Quoting Anonymous:

Why? Some people just have no interest in trying it so why force them to? As long as the baby is being cared for and thriving it doesn't matter how they get food





Quoting Anonymous:

Sure. As long as they TRY nursing first... Then the choice is theirs.



















Lovemyfamilyof8
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:50 AM

 LMAO, yes, someone is...YOU! That is the response that people give to others when they know they have lost the argument, and it is obvious you just realized how lazy of a mother you are!!! Would you like some parenting or housekeeping tips? I mean that BFing must be so much you cannot actually parent. BTW HOW DOES IT FEEL TO BE ATTACKED? Maybe you should put yourself in others shoes before you act like a child and treat people like dirt!

Quoting Anonymous:

Aw,someone is butt hurt. Boo hoo.





Quoting Lovemyfamilyof8:

 Hold the fuck on. I have more than enough ENERGY for them, it is about time, and my choice to give my preemie the supplement that the NICU recommended you half wit. Also, I BF 5 out of 7 and the only two I didn;t were my preemies. So supermom who BFs, do you also volunteer at your kids school 4 days a week? Run an FRG? Keep a spotless, neat home? Cook 3 homemade meals a day? Teach 4 children at home who are not old enough for school? Babysit for a needy family for only 200.00 a month for 14 hours a day? Did you drive 7 days a week to the NICU and pump the whole time, while still managing to not have the other kids feel left out? Do you volunteer at the VA? So tell me about my energy again, PLEASE!!!!! I get parent of the year at my kids schools every year for the last 3 years. I give every bit over energy and love that I have to my children. I do not have a maid, or a nanny, or a driver, and yet I function better than most parents with 1-2 kids. I also do this alone for a year at a time, every other year. Can you say that for your BFing Nazi self? I KNOW you cannot. If you could you would not hide everything about you. I did feel the need to defend myself, so save that Bullshit for someone else. I felt the need because people like you need to realize that just because you BF you are failing miserably at many other things. NOW I have BF 5 children and pumped for 2 until they came home, how many did you BF for? Grow up, and realize that you are obviously failing in many areas or you would not feel the need to attack others for something so menial.... I mean it must be the only thing you have in your life to take pride in.


Quoting Anonymous:

Let's see, who is the ignorant one here... The person that thinks everyone should do the best for their babies, or the person that had 7 children when they didn't have the energy for them?



Quoting Lovemyfamilyof8:


 That is very sad that you are so ignorant to other people's lives and choices. Not everyone has the time, energy or want to BF. I have done both and the fact is this time I chose NOT to BF because I didn;t want to. I have seven children and I have a ton of responsibility and it was simply the best choice for me! You are a bit of a zealot IMO



Quoting Anonymous:

Well they SHOULD. And and that's not an opinion, that's a fact.




Quoting happy41ce:

That's not your place. They DON'T have to try nursing.

Btw I breast feed. Comments like this irk me.






Quoting Anonymous:

Sure. As long as they TRY nursing first... Then the choice is theirs.



 



 


 

900 years of time and space, an I've never met anyone that wasn't important...... The Doctor




DanaG70
by Platinum Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:52 AM

 I agree, and you do a hell lot more then me, but then I'm lazy. =) Also, I nursed 4 children and worked a full time job, or at least I did until they got nipple confusion and went on the bottle full time. But that was years ago, my youngest son is 14 now. =(

I wouldn't worry too much about some anon on the internet is spouting, they do shit like this to get people's dander up.

Quoting Lovemyfamilyof8:

 Thank you!!! I hate when people think one small detail makes them "better" when in the end I do TONS of things more than most, and that one small detail is not even noticable in my life...UGH

Quoting DanaG70:

clapping 

Quoting Lovemyfamilyof8:

 Hold the fuck on. I have more than enough ENERGY for them, it is about time, and my choice to give my preemie the supplement that the NICU recommended you half wit. Also, I BF 5 out of 7 and the only two I didn;t were my preemies. So supermom who BFs, do you also volunteer at your kids school 4 days a week? Run an FRG? Keep a spotless, neat home? Cook 3 homemade meals a day? Teach 4 children at home who are not old enough for school? Babysit for a needy family for only 200.00 a month for 14 hours a day? Did you drive 7 days a week to the NICU and pump the whole time, while still managing to not have the other kids feel left out? Do you volunteer at the VA? So tell me about my energy again, PLEASE!!!!! I get parent of the year at my kids schools every year for the last 3 years. I give every bit over energy and love that I have to my children. I do not have a maid, or a nanny, or a driver, and yet I function better than most parents with 1-2 kids. I also do this alone for a year at a time, every other year. Can you say that for your BFing Nazi self? I KNOW you cannot. If you could you would not hide everything about you. I did feel the need to defend myself, so save that Bullshit for someone else. I felt the need because people like you need to realize that just because you BF you are failing miserably at many other things. NOW I have BF 5 children and pumped for 2 until they came home, how many did you BF for? Grow up, and realize that you are obviously failing in many areas or you would not feel the need to attack others for something so menial.... I mean it must be the only thing you have in your life to take pride in.

Quoting Anonymous:

Let's see, who is the ignorant one here... The person that thinks everyone should do the best for their babies, or the person that had 7 children when they didn't have the energy for them?


Quoting Lovemyfamilyof8:

 That is very sad that you are so ignorant to other people's lives and choices. Not everyone has the time, energy or want to BF. I have done both and the fact is this time I chose NOT to BF because I didn;t want to. I have seven children and I have a ton of responsibility and it was simply the best choice for me! You are a bit of a zealot IMO


Quoting Anonymous:

Well they SHOULD. And and that's not an opinion, that's a fact.



Quoting happy41ce:

That's not your place. They DON'T have to try nursing.

Btw I breast feed. Comments like this irk me.





Quoting Anonymous:

Sure. As long as they TRY nursing first... Then the choice is theirs.


 


 

 

 

 

notjstanothrmom
by Ruby Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:53 AM

I don't think it has to do with parenting, but I won't lie and pretend choosing formula is a good choice in the best interest of their child.

mylovey
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:55 AM

I am sorry...... you should have been treated better. I have noticed within the breastfeeding community there is a lot of negativity generated toward breastfeeding mothers as well. I frequent breastfeeding support pages on FB, and the administrators of these pages will have to put things like "kind and supportive advice only". Really, they shouldn't even have to do that. Why not offer support to a struggling breastfeeding mother? I am convinced that some of these women are absolutely miserable. It is hard because in a way I feel bad for them as well.

Quoting Anonymous:

I agree it 100% does turn them off breastfeeding. I BF my kids in the beginning and I remember when I started havinvg troubles and my milk was drying up.

All the BF nazi's I turned to for help were just so damn demeaning about everything. All it made me want to do was give up. When my milk officially dried up, I was pretty sad, & then I was relieved!

(-new anon)

Quoting mylovey:

I agree. I think some mothers think that if you breastfeed, you are instantly a superior parent. So much more goes into parenting; it is not just about how you feed your baby. Maybe what we should be focusing on is why in our society we view breastfeeding the way that we view it. I can tell you right now being rude about a mothers choice to formula feed doesn't make her more likely to change her mind in regards to breastfeeding. It turns people off to breastfeeding, and it makes them defensive.

Quoting Anonymous:

And the best thing for the baby is for it's mommy to be happy and confident in the care she is giving her baby. Just because she may choose to FF without even trying to BF doesn't make her an inferior parent  to someone who chooses to BF.

Is BF better then FFing...Yes without question but a baby can be just as happy and thriving on FF as a BF child as long as they have the love and nurturing from their parents that every child deserves. Stop being a jerk and have a nice day



Quoting Anonymous:

Once again, it's not about the mother. It's about the baby.





Quoting Anonymous:

Just because you are FFing your child doesn't mean your giving them the bare minimum of care. I both FF and BF my children and there was no difference in the amount/quality of care that I gave the ones I FF in compared to the ones I was actually able to BF. I think that is a horrible kind of guilt to lay on a new mother. Why force a mom to do something she hates just because you think it's "the right thing to do"...why put the bonding experience at risk by putting any negative feelings in something that should be so special just because they're not being fed the way YOU think they should.


Quoting Anonymous:

Because its about your baby, not YOU. Being "cared for" and doing the bare minimum should not be ok for our children.








Quoting Anonymous:

Why? Some people just have no interest in trying it so why force them to? As long as the baby is being cared for and thriving it doesn't matter how they get food





Quoting Anonymous:

Sure. As long as they TRY nursing first... Then the choice is theirs.




















Mommy to little Miss. Saylor, and little Mr. Finley. 

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