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HOW you feed your baby is completely up to you. As long as you hold him/her and feed him/her and love him/her, you are a great parent. Do not let anyone tell you how to feed your baby. Agree?

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 4:34 AM
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prdmama1154
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:23 AM
AGREE
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mylovey
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:30 AM

I agree, but........ there is nothing wrong with educating a new mother in regards to breastfeeding. You don't have to be rude, and you can still support that mothers choice to feed her baby whichever way she likes. I wish a friend or close relative would have informed me in a kind and encouraging way. I would have tried to breastfeed my oldest, and I would have liked it.

Mommy to little Miss. Saylor, and little Mr. Finley. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:33 AM

And the best thing for the baby is for it's mommy to be happy and confident in the care she is giving her baby. Just because she may choose to FF without even trying to BF doesn't make her an inferior parent  to someone who chooses to BF.

Is BF better then FFing...Yes without question but a baby can be just as happy and thriving on FF as a BF child as long as they have the love and nurturing from their parents that every child deserves. Stop being a jerk and have a nice day


Quoting Anonymous:

Once again, it's not about the mother. It's about the baby.


Quoting Anonymous:

Just because you are FFing your child doesn't mean your giving them the bare minimum of care. I both FF and BF my children and there was no difference in the amount/quality of care that I gave the ones I FF in compared to the ones I was actually able to BF. I think that is a horrible kind of guilt to lay on a new mother. Why force a mom to do something she hates just because you think it's "the right thing to do"...why put the bonding experience at risk by putting any negative feelings in something that should be so special just because they're not being fed the way YOU think they should.


Quoting Anonymous:

Because its about your baby, not YOU. Being "cared for" and doing the bare minimum should not be ok for our children.





Quoting Anonymous:

Why? Some people just have no interest in trying it so why force them to? As long as the baby is being cared for and thriving it doesn't matter how they get food




Quoting Anonymous:

Sure. As long as they TRY nursing first... Then the choice is theirs.













JLo1486
by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:33 AM
No.

Quoting Anonymous:

Sure. As long as they TRY nursing first... Then the choice is theirs.
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aikimomof3
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:37 AM

I agree completely.

My twins were formula fed, and my youngest DD was breastfed. I don't love any of them more or less than the others. They are all normal, healthy kids.

Lovemyfamilyof8
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:38 AM
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 Hold the fuck on. I have more than enough ENERGY for them, it is about time, and my choice to give my preemie the supplement that the NICU recommended you half wit. Also, I BF 5 out of 7 and the only two I didn;t were my preemies. So supermom who BFs, do you also volunteer at your kids school 4 days a week? Run an FRG? Keep a spotless, neat home? Cook 3 homemade meals a day? Teach 4 children at home who are not old enough for school? Babysit for a needy family for only 200.00 a month for 14 hours a day? Did you drive 7 days a week to the NICU and pump the whole time, while still managing to not have the other kids feel left out? Do you volunteer at the VA? So tell me about my energy again, PLEASE!!!!! I get parent of the year at my kids schools every year for the last 3 years. I give every bit over energy and love that I have to my children. I do not have a maid, or a nanny, or a driver, and yet I function better than most parents with 1-2 kids. I also do this alone for a year at a time, every other year. Can you say that for your BFing Nazi self? I KNOW you cannot. If you could you would not hide everything about you. I did feel the need to defend myself, so save that Bullshit for someone else. I felt the need because people like you need to realize that just because you BF you are failing miserably at many other things. NOW I have BF 5 children and pumped for 2 until they came home, how many did you BF for? Grow up, and realize that you are obviously failing in many areas or you would not feel the need to attack others for something so menial.... I mean it must be the only thing you have in your life to take pride in.

Quoting Anonymous:

Let's see, who is the ignorant one here... The person that thinks everyone should do the best for their babies, or the person that had 7 children when they didn't have the energy for them?


Quoting Lovemyfamilyof8:

 That is very sad that you are so ignorant to other people's lives and choices. Not everyone has the time, energy or want to BF. I have done both and the fact is this time I chose NOT to BF because I didn;t want to. I have seven children and I have a ton of responsibility and it was simply the best choice for me! You are a bit of a zealot IMO


Quoting Anonymous:

Well they SHOULD. And and that's not an opinion, that's a fact.



Quoting happy41ce:

That's not your place. They DON'T have to try nursing.

Btw I breast feed. Comments like this irk me.





Quoting Anonymous:

Sure. As long as they TRY nursing first... Then the choice is theirs.


 


 

900 years of time and space, an I've never met anyone that wasn't important...... The Doctor




mylovey
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:38 AM

I agree. I think some mothers think that if you breastfeed, you are instantly a superior parent. So much more goes into parenting; it is not just about how you feed your baby. Maybe what we should be focusing on is why in our society we view breastfeeding the way that we view it. I can tell you right now being rude about a mothers choice to formula feed doesn't make her more likely to change her mind in regards to breastfeeding. It turns people off to breastfeeding, and it makes them defensive.

Quoting Anonymous:

And the best thing for the baby is for it's mommy to be happy and confident in the care she is giving her baby. Just because she may choose to FF without even trying to BF doesn't make her an inferior parent  to someone who chooses to BF.

Is BF better then FFing...Yes without question but a baby can be just as happy and thriving on FF as a BF child as long as they have the love and nurturing from their parents that every child deserves. Stop being a jerk and have a nice day


Quoting Anonymous:

Once again, it's not about the mother. It's about the baby.


Quoting Anonymous:

Just because you are FFing your child doesn't mean your giving them the bare minimum of care. I both FF and BF my children and there was no difference in the amount/quality of care that I gave the ones I FF in compared to the ones I was actually able to BF. I think that is a horrible kind of guilt to lay on a new mother. Why force a mom to do something she hates just because you think it's "the right thing to do"...why put the bonding experience at risk by putting any negative feelings in something that should be so special just because they're not being fed the way YOU think they should.


Quoting Anonymous:

Because its about your baby, not YOU. Being "cared for" and doing the bare minimum should not be ok for our children.





Quoting Anonymous:

Why? Some people just have no interest in trying it so why force them to? As long as the baby is being cared for and thriving it doesn't matter how they get food




Quoting Anonymous:

Sure. As long as they TRY nursing first... Then the choice is theirs.














Mommy to little Miss. Saylor, and little Mr. Finley. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 15 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:39 AM
Agree, but holding, feeding, & loving a child does not make you a great parent.
DanaG70
by Platinum Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:40 AM

 Yup!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:41 AM
I guess at the end of the day, my kids are so lucky that they got me as a mom who always puts their needs before my own. It doesn't surprise me that people don't feel the same way considering many of the girls in this group still have a lot of growing up to do.


Quoting Anonymous:

And the best thing for the baby is for it's mommy to be happy and confident in the care she is giving her baby. Just because she may choose to FF without even trying to BF doesn't make her an inferior parent  to someone who chooses to BF.

Is BF better then FFing...Yes without question but a baby can be just as happy and thriving on FF as a BF child as long as they have the love and nurturing from their parents that every child deserves. Stop being a jerk and have a nice day



Quoting Anonymous:

Once again, it's not about the mother. It's about the baby.





Quoting Anonymous:

Just because you are FFing your child doesn't mean your giving them the bare minimum of care. I both FF and BF my children and there was no difference in the amount/quality of care that I gave the ones I FF in compared to the ones I was actually able to BF. I think that is a horrible kind of guilt to lay on a new mother. Why force a mom to do something she hates just because you think it's "the right thing to do"...why put the bonding experience at risk by putting any negative feelings in something that should be so special just because they're not being fed the way YOU think they should.


Quoting Anonymous:

Because its about your baby, not YOU. Being "cared for" and doing the bare minimum should not be ok for our children.








Quoting Anonymous:

Why? Some people just have no interest in trying it so why force them to? As long as the baby is being cared for and thriving it doesn't matter how they get food





Quoting Anonymous:

Sure. As long as they TRY nursing first... Then the choice is theirs.



















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