Upset & REALLY don't know how to handle this situation
I car pool with a friend since her daughter and my son are in the same kindergarten class. A few weeks back when I picked them up from school, friend's daughter got in the car and told me that my son and a few other boys were showing each other their private parts under the table at school. Upon further investigation it sounded to me like they never actually showed private parts or pulled pants down, just sticking their butts out and givingn little "pelvic thrusts" under the table. Either way, extremely inappropriate and very upsetting, especially considering I've talked to my son about privates and not sharing, and letting me know if anyone shares with him, etc. since as long as we could communicate. I just really thought I had it pounded in his head. So I had a good long talk with him about it. He says he did it because the other boys were doing it, so we talked about not being a follower when you know that something is wrong, and he KNOWS that is wrong. I thought we had a good talk and he had a good understanding, so I left it alone. This morning before school he made some sort of comment about him and a friend at school showing each other their underwear. He said they just like to show each other how cool they are. LIke, "I have guitars" "well I have power rangers" type thing. Am I over reacting? Is this extremely inappropriate behavior or is this something young kids do? They're not pulling down their pants, but they are showing each other their underwear???? THEN, he tells me a different kid always crawls under the stall when he's going to the bathroom and he has to tell him to get out, and that the same kid sticks his bare butt under the door while they're going to the bathroom to show him his butt. This situation with this particular kid will definitely be addressed with the teacher, especially since my son is telling the kid to stop. Coming into the bathroom while he's peeing??? Come on! I've just never dealt with anything like this and any advice on it, and especially advice on how to address this with his teacher would be greatly appreciated. Am I over-reacting?? Would you be upset?? They are just in kindergarten, so maybe that's what kindergartners do, but I feel like it's inappropriate, and I'm very disappointed in my son.