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Mother of a Transgendered Child

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Hello!

My name is Jennifer, I am 31 years old and the mother of two amazing children. My oldest child is 11 years old and really intelligent. Now, I know parents say that a lot about their children but she really is very smart. She is 11 years old and already taking high school credits and next year she will be taking college credits. She is spunky and has a mind and style all her own. She never follows the crowd and is a trend setter at her school.

My youngest is also just as awesome and unique. My youngest came and sat me down about 2 months ago. Actually, my oldest came to me first and said, "Mom, Erin and I have something that we need to talk to you about." That is when I sat down with my kids and had my youngest tell me, "Mom, I'm a girl." I had no idea what to think at first; you see, Erin had been in fact born Aaron, a boy. Now, I have seen the signs since she was very young but always would tell her that she is a boys and boys don't dress or act that way. When my kids sat me down, however, it hit me. Erin had been confiding in her sister for a while; they would dress up together in private, too afraid to tell me cause Erin did not want to disappoint me. I thought it over for a minute and thought about how I have always told my kids they could be whatever they wanted to be, that I would always love them because I am their mother. I realized I could not be upset, that no matter what, this is still my child; my child I gave birth to and have loved and still love with all my heart and soul.

Ever since Erin has came out to me and people around her, she has been a totally different child; happier and more at peace. Erin used to be an introvert and a troublemaker at home. She would throw tantrums, backtalk, and try to cause self harm, but ever since she has came out to the world, she is very lovable, very well behaved, and has so many friends. I have seen so many people point accusing fingers at me, telling me that somehow this is my fault and that I am crazy for allowing Erin to be herself instead of boy. They did not see the child before the transformation.

I want parents and everyone to think about something before pointing fingers and making accusations. Think about how I said my child was self harming before coming out. It was scary not knowing how to help my child because they felt alone. You can't tell me therapy would have been suffice because I tried therapy and hospitalization, cause I did not know at the time why Erin was self harming. Trust me, nothing worked. But ever since Erin has came out to me and has support now from therapist and me, she has done a total turn around.

As a parent, it is our duty to protect our children and love them forever. It is our duty to nurture them and encourage them. On top of all that, though, it is not our job to tell them what they can or cannot be. We need to help them find their talents and to nurture those talents. Love them unconditionally.

by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:46 AM
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RLT2
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:52 AM

Good for you! :)

mcwife86
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:52 AM
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true..this anon button in the group gives "women" balls the size of watermelons. they will say some messed up stuff when no one can tell who they are.

Quoting Anonymous:

Beware, you will be torn to shreds, your parenting skills will be attacked, and your children will be attacked.

I like your post, and great work on loving your kids, but beware.


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:53 AM

Hang on, Erin was born male? Her name was Aaron but she changed it to Erin?

kiernansmom08
by Bronze Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:54 AM
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You are an awesome mom, just wanted to say that :-)

atyou
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:54 AM
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Bravo, Mom.


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noholdingback
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:55 AM
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This is so great!! I wish more women were as beautiful, loving and accepting as you are!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:56 AM
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My friends boyfriend used to be a woman. He did the full transformation. You would honestly never know unless you actually knew...it's crazy. I commend you for accepting your child! I think that is so awesome!!!
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:57 AM
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Your an awesome mommy for being able to deal with it so well. We all know our children best, forget about the bashers. They will always be there trying to bring down anyone they can. I would rather see a happy child than a miserable one. She is beautiful. Way to go Mama!!

zipporah1122
by Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:57 AM
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Yes, we have been talking to her therapist who specializes in children like Erin and are going to be talking to a doctor here soon in Chicago.

MissMysteriouss
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:57 AM
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How old is Erin? She actually looks like a girl. Very pretty.

Have you had any genetics testing done? Often there are chromosomal abnormalities in transgendered people.
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