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Mother of a Transgendered Child

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Hello!

My name is Jennifer, I am 31 years old and the mother of two amazing children. My oldest child is 11 years old and really intelligent. Now, I know parents say that a lot about their children but she really is very smart. She is 11 years old and already taking high school credits and next year she will be taking college credits. She is spunky and has a mind and style all her own. She never follows the crowd and is a trend setter at her school.

My youngest is also just as awesome and unique. My youngest came and sat me down about 2 months ago. Actually, my oldest came to me first and said, "Mom, Erin and I have something that we need to talk to you about." That is when I sat down with my kids and had my youngest tell me, "Mom, I'm a girl." I had no idea what to think at first; you see, Erin had been in fact born Aaron, a boy. Now, I have seen the signs since she was very young but always would tell her that she is a boys and boys don't dress or act that way. When my kids sat me down, however, it hit me. Erin had been confiding in her sister for a while; they would dress up together in private, too afraid to tell me cause Erin did not want to disappoint me. I thought it over for a minute and thought about how I have always told my kids they could be whatever they wanted to be, that I would always love them because I am their mother. I realized I could not be upset, that no matter what, this is still my child; my child I gave birth to and have loved and still love with all my heart and soul.

Ever since Erin has came out to me and people around her, she has been a totally different child; happier and more at peace. Erin used to be an introvert and a troublemaker at home. She would throw tantrums, backtalk, and try to cause self harm, but ever since she has came out to the world, she is very lovable, very well behaved, and has so many friends. I have seen so many people point accusing fingers at me, telling me that somehow this is my fault and that I am crazy for allowing Erin to be herself instead of boy. They did not see the child before the transformation.

I want parents and everyone to think about something before pointing fingers and making accusations. Think about how I said my child was self harming before coming out. It was scary not knowing how to help my child because they felt alone. You can't tell me therapy would have been suffice because I tried therapy and hospitalization, cause I did not know at the time why Erin was self harming. Trust me, nothing worked. But ever since Erin has came out to me and has support now from therapist and me, she has done a total turn around.

As a parent, it is our duty to protect our children and love them forever. It is our duty to nurture them and encourage them. On top of all that, though, it is not our job to tell them what they can or cannot be. We need to help them find their talents and to nurture those talents. Love them unconditionally.

by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:46 AM
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AleaKat
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:11 AM
How does it effect school? Or of you homeschool?

Does he "like" boys or girls?
Again I commend you for your unconditional love I just have so many questions.


Quoting zipporah1122:

She is 10 years old and trust me, she must have really been thinking everything through before she sat me down with everything she has told me and things that might happen if she told.

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PepperWillow
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:11 AM

Thank you. :) 

and I agree. I mean at what age did you know you we're a girl? Pretty early I am guessing. Most people with GID say they always knew.

Quoting zipporah1122:

@Pepper Willow

Your daughter is so beautiful and yes it is a very scary thing for a parent to go through watching a child self harm. I have had people try to tell me she is not old enough to know this, but she is. Children know a lot more than we give them credit for.


ALXtheg8
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:12 AM
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Which one is erin?
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LucyMom08
by BS Intolerant on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:12 AM
What a lucky little girl... :)

I wish more parents were as open and accepting as you are...
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PepperWillow
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:14 AM
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Not true. My child is homeschooled and doesn't watch programs concerning gender. Still transgender. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I didn't even read this post because I think there is to much MEDIA infiltration clogging up kids heads. When I was 11, I didn't know what this is. I BET...if we could send your daughter back in time to grow up in the 80's for example...she wouldn't be thinking this. This shit is ridiculous that kids know about this, are thinking about this and deciding who/what they are at 11. If you as a MOM can't see that she is INFLUENCED then you are crazy. Twenty some years ago...transgender issues would even cross kids' minds.


MaryJarrett
by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:15 AM
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:')

*tears*

Great job mama! You are strong! You are impressive! Kudos!
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zipporah1122
by Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:15 AM
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Erin is the one on the right



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Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:12 AM

Which one is erin?

AimeeReneV
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:16 AM
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20 years ago people, including children, still experienced these feelings. But you werent aloud to express it. It was kept a family secret, just like being gay was unacceptable. One of my great uncles is gay, has been his whole life, but he knew he wasn't aloud to be so he married a woman and had a kid and then divorced her for a man because he wanted to be happy. Kids know who they are long before we do, it has nothing to do with parenting or media. Do you really believe a child would do something like pretend to be transgender? Thats just ignorant.

Quoting Anonymous:

I didn't even read this post because I think there is to much MEDIA infiltration clogging up kids heads. When I was 11, I didn't know what this is. I BET...if we could send your daughter back in time to grow up in the 80's for example...she wouldn't be thinking this. This shit is ridiculous that kids know about this, are thinking about this and deciding who/what they are at 11. If you as a MOM can't see that she is INFLUENCED then you are crazy. Twenty some years ago...transgender issues would even cross kids' minds.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:17 AM
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As a psychology major( I graduate this semester), I would advise you at that age- you are REALLY fucking that child up. Even though your intentions are good, you really are setting that kid up for a huge reality check in the future.

thickmamaof2
by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:18 AM
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What a awesome Mom you are! And to be honest I can't tell which one is Erin. They both look like pretty little girls to me.
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