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Mother of a Transgendered Child

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Hello!

My name is Jennifer, I am 31 years old and the mother of two amazing children. My oldest child is 11 years old and really intelligent. Now, I know parents say that a lot about their children but she really is very smart. She is 11 years old and already taking high school credits and next year she will be taking college credits. She is spunky and has a mind and style all her own. She never follows the crowd and is a trend setter at her school.

My youngest is also just as awesome and unique. My youngest came and sat me down about 2 months ago. Actually, my oldest came to me first and said, "Mom, Erin and I have something that we need to talk to you about." That is when I sat down with my kids and had my youngest tell me, "Mom, I'm a girl." I had no idea what to think at first; you see, Erin had been in fact born Aaron, a boy. Now, I have seen the signs since she was very young but always would tell her that she is a boys and boys don't dress or act that way. When my kids sat me down, however, it hit me. Erin had been confiding in her sister for a while; they would dress up together in private, too afraid to tell me cause Erin did not want to disappoint me. I thought it over for a minute and thought about how I have always told my kids they could be whatever they wanted to be, that I would always love them because I am their mother. I realized I could not be upset, that no matter what, this is still my child; my child I gave birth to and have loved and still love with all my heart and soul.

Ever since Erin has came out to me and people around her, she has been a totally different child; happier and more at peace. Erin used to be an introvert and a troublemaker at home. She would throw tantrums, backtalk, and try to cause self harm, but ever since she has came out to the world, she is very lovable, very well behaved, and has so many friends. I have seen so many people point accusing fingers at me, telling me that somehow this is my fault and that I am crazy for allowing Erin to be herself instead of boy. They did not see the child before the transformation.

I want parents and everyone to think about something before pointing fingers and making accusations. Think about how I said my child was self harming before coming out. It was scary not knowing how to help my child because they felt alone. You can't tell me therapy would have been suffice because I tried therapy and hospitalization, cause I did not know at the time why Erin was self harming. Trust me, nothing worked. But ever since Erin has came out to me and has support now from therapist and me, she has done a total turn around.

As a parent, it is our duty to protect our children and love them forever. It is our duty to nurture them and encourage them. On top of all that, though, it is not our job to tell them what they can or cannot be. We need to help them find their talents and to nurture those talents. Love them unconditionally.

by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:46 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 86 on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:55 PM
Amazing parenting! How does the father feel?
2ofthesame
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:55 PM
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Satan attacks using bigots like you to spread hatred. Keep up the good work losers.. You still have a hard road ahead of you, your breed is a dying kind, just not dying off fast enough enough to make this world better off.


Quoting godsgirl26:

Sad i know :(



Quoting mel4him:

He is your child. However, satan is a liar and has attacked both you and your child and you let him.


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ree511
by Bronze Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:56 PM


And here comes the know it all Anon! I'm curious what media do you see influencing kids? Years ago a lot of people just killed themselves or tried to make themselves who the world wanted them to be because they were confused and ostracized by people like you 

Quoting Anonymous:

I didn't even read this post because I think there is to much MEDIA infiltration clogging up kids heads. When I was 11, I didn't know what this is. I BET...if we could send your daughter back in time to grow up in the 80's for example...she wouldn't be thinking this. This shit is ridiculous that kids know about this, are thinking about this and deciding who/what they are at 11. If you as a MOM can't see that she is INFLUENCED then you are crazy. Twenty some years ago...transgender issues would even cross kids' minds.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 85 on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:56 PM
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Its in the childs genes. DO YOU PEOPLE JUST NOT UNDERSTAND THE WAY THE BODY WORKS?!

Ridiculous. You are a fucking moron!

Quoting Anonymous:

This is just sad. I cry for your son. My heart bleeds for your son. People here are too dishonest to say that what you have allowed is irresponsible. When your son grows an Adams apple then what? I think some of you are. Too scared to say her son needs a good male role model. Where is his father? Is everyone here drunk?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 87 on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:57 PM
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that child aint a girl. its a boy that has some mental issues....

Anonymous
by Anonymous 85 on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:58 PM
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Genes people..... its part of the childs genes!

The child was born with an extra female chromosone. This happens!

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm not going to bash you, but really.  If he was born a boy, he's a boy.  Somewhere in his young life you have exposed him to something that made him think this was ok.  So are you going to take him for a sex change at age 16?  Why not age 12?  You have set this poor child up for a life of hell.  i'm sorry. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 88 on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:58 PM

Kudos to you...personally not a fan.


blackwidow6161
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:59 PM
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oh my god !!! that is so amazing ,,,,

 i am one of those children ( all grown up now .... but somehow , i am a mother of 6 and all i can keep trying to explain is that ( outside of sexual child abuse ) is that we will be   love'd.............. o.k 

 i stand for womens right's & the protection

 NO ONE KNOWS OUR BABIES LIKE WE DO !!!!!

 god blesss you ....

 lisa ~



Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

First, since you're new, I want to point out that bitches around here are freaking rude and you can probably expect some unnecessary cruelty or bashing. It's immature at best. 


that being said, I think you are an AMAZING woman and mother for doing what your little girl NEEDS you to do. Most people wouldn't accept that their child has a gender identity disorder, and would try to cure them of it. You are a beautiful person! HUGS. Also, your daughter is beautiful!



mommieJJ03
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:59 PM
You are who you are and we are adults.....but really
knocking someone's teeth out for calling you a bad parent, that is just useless plus it's the internet no one takes threats seriously. Now it will be ok, your right about that have a good day.


Quoting DieMyDarling:

*yawn*



It says plenty about me. It says ill get foul mouthed with someone if they call me a bad parent for supporting a transgendered child and their mother. I'd do more, too. That person couldn't get on my level if her life depended on it. People yell and say bad words in real life, it's going to be okay.




Quoting mommieJJ03:

The fact that you have actually resorted to using such


hateful language doesn't say much about you. Whenever someone is ignorant or spiteful it does nothing to get in their level.






Quoting DieMyDarling:

Hey bitch, I have plenty of spine. In the real world if u said that to my face I'd knock your teeth out. You're the one bashing children online. I'm a fantastic mother so you can take your hate and shove it up your pathetic Internet bullying ass. I'm not a yes man to anyone and if you knew me in real life it'd be obvious at first glance. Now go try to insult someone who cares, and I say try because I don't take a damn thing an ignorant hateful bitch that hates on children and mothers has to say seriously.



Losers like you are a dime a dozen. I'm bored with you...run back to the hell you live in, I'm going to get back to my awesome life filled with positivity and love and happiness. You're disgusting, congrats on being ugly on the inside,








Quoting Anonymous:

 at least my kids live in the real world and not Narnia...I have the balls to guide and parent my kids...maybe you should take the balls her SON  is obviously  never going to use and use them to be a parent, not a yes-man










Quoting DieMyDarling:

I know right?! They don't even have enough pride in their hateful convictions to use their damn screen names. *eye roll* spineless bitches, fuck em. I feel sorry for their children.






Quoting ProudMommy51006:

All of you anons are pieces of work. Let me tell ya







Quoting Anonymous:

Blah, blah, blah.









Quoting ProudMommy51006:

Everything in life isn't always black and white. It's not always as easy as, a penis. There is so much more that goes into gender than a body part. Chromosomes, hormones, etc.











Quoting Anonymous:

If the boy is born with a penis he is a boy PERIOD.














 





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vwd_johnson
by Ruby Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 7:00 PM
Good for you mama! Your daughters are beautiful.
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