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sleepover girl/boy?

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do u see anything wrong with letting two 3yos have a sleepover in the same bed 1 girl 1 boy. not related.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 12:56 PM
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StevieMarie
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:11 PM

 Lol oh I see. I wouldve jumped down my ass too hahah. I see how you could construe that, I just meant NO its not a problem.


Quoting fullxbusymom:

Oh sorry thought you were saying no way.  I agree with you, I don't understand the problem either.

Quoting StevieMarie:

 

Why should it matter if they share a bed especially at 3? I have had sleepovers with guy friends my whole life. Not a big deal.

Quoting fullxbusymom:

Why?

Quoting StevieMarie:

Are you serious? NO!!!!!


 

 



 

tifbrown
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:11 PM

Seems overly cautious until it happens. And, it did happen to someone I know. The kids were almost 3 and 3.5. In the morning my friend's little girl came to her and told her that the boy had been touching her all night. She was mortified that it had happened in her own home and that it was something totally preventable. She found out later the poor little guy had a history of abuse. We were all shocked, they seemed like such a good, close family. To me, it's just not a risk worth taking.

Quoting StevieMarie:


Oh good LAWD!

Quoting tifbrown:

Not going to happen in my house. You don't know what goes on in the other child's home. It is an unnecessary risk. I would be fine with a sleepover, but not in the same bed.




bekalynne440
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:12 PM
On the surface I don't see an issue. However, I don't like to permit things when kids are younger that I wouldn't allow when they're older. It's much easier to loosen standards for kids than it is to tighten them.
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StevieMarie
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:19 PM

 

Hmmmm I had sleepovers with guy friends all the time growing up, in my room. You should know what happens in the other child's home before you allow that child to come over, first off. That person was not being smart enough to begin with, so I would hardly cement that as a rule. I always had co-ed sleepovers and it never go weird or intimate in any way.

Quoting tifbrown:

Seems overly cautious until it happens. And, it did happen to someone I know. The kids were almost 3 and 3.5. In the morning my friend's little girl came to her and told her that the boy had been touching her all night. She was mortified that it had happened in her own home and that it was something totally preventable. She found out later the poor little guy had a history of abuse. We were all shocked, they seemed like such a good, close family. To me, it's just not a risk worth taking.

Quoting StevieMarie:

 

Oh good LAWD!

Quoting tifbrown:

Not going to happen in my house. You don't know what goes on in the other child's home. It is an unnecessary risk. I would be fine with a sleepover, but not in the same bed.

 

 



 

smushy79
by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:21 PM

 At 3 yrs old? Girl, Ive got 3 kids to contend with that dont always stay in their beds at night...dont need a 4th, lol!

Quoting fullxbusymom:

Why?

Quoting smushy79:

 I wouldnt have anyone other than family sleepover at that age.


 

fullxbusymom
by Ruby Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:34 PM

Okay I have 4 kids and still have sleepovers w/friends kids all the time since they were babies.  Sometimes having 6-10 kids here at a time.  I don't find it that big of a deal.  When you have 3 already what the heck is one more.

Quoting smushy79:

 At 3 yrs old? Girl, Ive got 3 kids to contend with that dont always stay in their beds at night...dont need a 4th, lol!

Quoting fullxbusymom:

Why?

Quoting smushy79:

 I wouldnt have anyone other than family sleepover at that age.


 


tifbrown
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:35 PM

You can't compare your situation to all. It's not like someone is going to just come out and tell you "hey my husband molested my son". The mother or the boy didn't even know at the time, it didn't come out until a year later. I just figure when it comes to the safety of your kids, you are better safe than sorry. I don't have a problem with co-sleepovers at a young age, it's the sleeping in the same bed I have a problem with.

Quoting StevieMarie:


Hmmmm I had sleepovers with guy friends all the time growing up, in my room. You should know what happens in the other child's home before you allow that child to come over, first off. That person was not being smart enough to begin with, so I would hardly cement that as a rule. I always had co-ed sleepovers and it never go weird or intimate in any way.

Quoting tifbrown:

Seems overly cautious until it happens. And, it did happen to someone I know. The kids were almost 3 and 3.5. In the morning my friend's little girl came to her and told her that the boy had been touching her all night. She was mortified that it had happened in her own home and that it was something totally preventable. She found out later the poor little guy had a history of abuse. We were all shocked, they seemed like such a good, close family. To me, it's just not a risk worth taking.

Quoting StevieMarie:


Oh good LAWD!

Quoting tifbrown:

Not going to happen in my house. You don't know what goes on in the other child's home. It is an unnecessary risk. I would be fine with a sleepover, but not in the same bed.







StevieMarie
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:48 PM

 

You're right I cant. I understand now. But at the same time. My child knows the SECOND anyone touches her there, to jump up and come find me! All parents should teach them not to just let it happen, thats what I was taught. My dh experienced that as a child so we are big on preventative measures here.

Quoting tifbrown:

You can't compare your situation to all. It's not like someone is going to just come out and tell you "hey my husband molested my son". The mother or the boy didn't even know at the time, it didn't come out until a year later. I just figure when it comes to the safety of your kids, you are better safe than sorry. I don't have a problem with co-sleepovers at a young age, it's the sleeping in the same bed I have a problem with.

Quoting StevieMarie:

 

Hmmmm I had sleepovers with guy friends all the time growing up, in my room. You should know what happens in the other child's home before you allow that child to come over, first off. That person was not being smart enough to begin with, so I would hardly cement that as a rule. I always had co-ed sleepovers and it never go weird or intimate in any way.

Quoting tifbrown:

Seems overly cautious until it happens. And, it did happen to someone I know. The kids were almost 3 and 3.5. In the morning my friend's little girl came to her and told her that the boy had been touching her all night. She was mortified that it had happened in her own home and that it was something totally preventable. She found out later the poor little guy had a history of abuse. We were all shocked, they seemed like such a good, close family. To me, it's just not a risk worth taking.

Quoting StevieMarie:

 

Oh good LAWD!

Quoting tifbrown:

Not going to happen in my house. You don't know what goes on in the other child's home. It is an unnecessary risk. I would be fine with a sleepover, but not in the same bed.

 

 


 

 



 

1CopaceticMama
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:49 PM
They are 3. Go for it
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:51 PM

not in the same bed but that is just me..

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