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I think that the solution to the whole gay marriage issue would be to just do away with marriage completely.

Why should the government have any role in it?

If someone wants a priest/rabbi/swami whatever bless their union fine...that is a religious matter. Keep the government out of it.

Just require paternity test on all newborns to establish child support and couples can stay together or seperate as they see fit (which is pretty much how it is now anyway).

Allow anyone to name whomever they wish as "family" for purposes of inheritance, hospital visits, etc.


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by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:07 PM
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Kaya529
by Platinum Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:55 PM
Not really. Anybody can get ordained on the internet now. I even know a guy who did it so he could marry his brother.

Quoting Hayleysmom88:

But then only in a church would your marriage be recognized.




Quoting Kaya529:

Lol...I am not a liberal either. I wasn't saying you should agree with her. I was just pointing out that the OP wasn't against marriage, just not a government sanctioned one. That it should be a religious thing instead.





Quoting Hayleysmom88:

I suppose. I am not very liberal......at all. I like it the way it is. Just a personal preference.








Quoting Kaya529:

You could still do all of that, it just wouldn't be government sanctioned.









Quoting Hayleysmom88:

I worded that wrong. I mean people that know us. Friends and family. I don't care about strangers opinions












Quoting spooky415:

nobody knows that by looking at you lol.














Quoting Hayleysmom88:

Ehh. I see your point but I like the idea of being married to dh. I like that other people look at us and know that we dated got married and then had children. A lot of people don't do that in that order anymore for whatever reason and there is something kind of sad about that too me. Not judging anyone else's lifestyle, its just something I personally cherish.




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Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:56 PM
We just need to let any consenting adult who wants to marry another consenting adult (or two or 3) do it. No one should be saying who can and can not be married as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult. One man one woman, two men, two women, 3, 4 , 5 etc... people (all men, all women, mixed men and women), brother sister, cousin, father/mother and child, grandparent & grandchild, ANYONE who is a consenting adult. Jmo
Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:58 PM
You mean in a polygamist type of fashion? If he's married to both women then yes his wives should live with him just like his wife would.

Quoting Anonymous:

That would complicate housing situations with the military. That's for sure.



What if one guy had two kids from two women? Do they both live in housing?
1CopaceticMama
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:00 PM
I would vote for it :)
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HistoryNutty
by Ruby Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:01 PM
If marriage was done away with. Not married to both, but either not with them or dating someone else (just a scenario, though I'm sure it happens).

Quoting Anonymous:

You mean in a polygamist type of fashion? If he's married to both women then yes his wives should live with him just like his wife would.



Quoting Anonymous:

That would complicate housing situations with the military. That's for sure.





What if one guy had two kids from two women? Do they both live in housing?
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brandydesiree
by Platinum Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:03 PM

Incest does hurt people...like their genetically screwed up offspring.

But, no, really I get your point. There is a HUGE difference between gay marriage and the others mentioned below...That was kind of my point too...you know two consenting adults and all.

My brother is the one in the black. Aren't they handsome!


Quoting davnrori:

 Ftr, are you equating the acceptance of gay marriage today with the likely acceptance of incest, bestiality, and pedophilia 30 years from now? While I'm not a supporter of incest, if the people are consenting and it hurts no one, what's the big deal? The point here is CONSENT. An animal cannot give consent, neither can a child.

Whatever the definition of marriage is, and I'm assuming here that you want me to notice that marriage can be defined as both a religious and lawful union between a man and a woman, it has shown itself to be first and foremost a changeable contract. If it wasn't then we men and women who are married today are really doing it wrong as compared to the first man and woman who were ever married.

Quoting brandydesiree:

You made a blanket statement. I was not being obtuse.

Aren't there already federal laws in place that prevent Gay's from marrying?

I'm not anti-gay marriage. My brother is gay and married. My point is, 30 years ago, hell 10 years ago, the majority of Americans were against gay marriage, just like the majority of us today are against incest, bestiality, and pedophilia. Things are not black and white. But if you want to keep it in black and white...just look up the definition of marriage in any language and see it was says.

Here is my brother and his husband.

They got married in New York in December. I love my brother and I adore his husband.

 


 

Quoting davnrori:

 Hey, whatever floats your boat. Are there not laws already in place to prevent such a thing from happening? I believe you are being deliberately obtuse. There are genetic reasons why a brother shouldn't marry a sister, a grandfather to marry his adult grandchild, etc. If you don't know that then Google hasn't been your friend. You know I meant that, barring a close genetic link, consenting adults should be able to marry. If you didn't know that then you are either thick or simply acting that way to take away from my point. So, yes, now that I've expanded on my original statement, it is quite black and white.

Quoting brandydesiree:

So you think a brother should be able to marry his sister, as long as they both consent?

Or a grandfather to marry his adult grandchild?

It is not that black and white.

Quoting davnrori:

 I think any consenting adult should be able to marry any other consenting adult. I don't know why this is a problem!

 

 

 

 

 

 


 

michiganmom5150
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:16 PM
I agree. My dad who is a bit homophobic agrees too. Why should the government have a say? If you want to get married, find someone to do it, and do it. Why does the government have anything to do with it? My cousin had a minister marry her and her partner and it's not recognized by the state, but oh well. They recognize it.
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Hanab818
by Ruby Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:24 PM
No I love being married.
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KelissaMaye
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:25 PM

Same here.

Quoting fullxbusymom:

NOT on your life.  Marriage is so very important at least to me and my family.


AmaliaD
by Platinum Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:28 PM

i have no interest in being married in a church - i think religion is evil (but god is good -  people created religion to control others)    but i need my union with dh recognised by the gov for the tax breaks and to be sure if we ever do split up that i get my fair half of everything earned during the years married.   yes the gov sadly has to have a place in our lives.    gays should get to marry just like everyone because Religion needs to disconnect - have no say or bearing in our government because we have freedom of religion -  so we cannot just follow the christian way = because its not right for most people.  

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