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How do I learn patience?

Anonymous
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How can I teach myself to have patience with my kids? They frustrate me beyond imagination and I yell at them. A lot. They are 6 and almost 3. After I yell I realize they aren't being that bs and I feel terrible, but I can't keep from yelling at them again! I know stress with my husband is a big factor. But how do I not take that out on my kids? My husband is making me a bad mom.

What can I do?
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:09 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:10 PM
I'm no help here I have the same problem spheres a bump (so I can check the responses later). :-)
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:12 PM

I don't know what to tell you except for this.  I was really impatient when I was in my 20's once I hit about 31, it sort of went away.  I started having my kids "late" (I was 33 and 34 when I had both).  I am by no means perfect but what helped me was seeing a therapist.  Love to you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:13 PM
Like any skill, you must learn it in a good environment. Teach your kids patience and teach yourself at the same time. And your husband can't make you a bad mom.
catrig
by Platinum Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:15 PM

You just have to be annoyed into submission.  Don't worry.  They can help with that.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:16 PM
Yes he has a huge part in it. We fight a lot. He stresses me out and annoys the shit out of me. Leaving me annoyed around the kids

Quoting Anonymous:

Like any skill, you must learn it in a good environment. Teach your kids patience and teach yourself at the same time. And your husband can't make you a bad mom.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:19 PM

see a specialist and take a sedative. i grew up with a screaming mom and believe me, you could really make them hate you by not taking care of yourself

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:20 PM
Right, you guys are in a troubled marriage. It's not all his fault. If its not working its probably just nagging in your head making you jumpy and angry. If you and your mate can find a happy peace I'm sure a lot of your lack of patience will lift.

Quoting Anonymous:

Yes he has a huge part in it. We fight a lot. He stresses me out and annoys the shit out of me. Leaving me annoyed around the kids



Quoting Anonymous:

Like any skill, you must learn it in a good environment. Teach your kids patience and teach yourself at the same time. And your husband can't make you a bad mom.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:21 PM
I have very low patience when it comes to others. I just learned how to not stress the little things with my kids. Their father use to stress me out to no end. Soon as I got rid of him I could breathe again.
peachesforme
by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:22 PM

try to remember what you were like when you were a kid and what your thoughts were like. remember that they don't know any better right now and need you to guide them to learn right from wrong.  remain calm and they will be calm as they model your actions.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:26 PM

You have to make a conscience effort not to yell or over react. Every time you find yourself losing control and yelling just imagine every angry word will break your child's spirit. Children respond better to calmness and positive reinforcements. The more you yell the more they tune you out.

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