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PA bashing........I dont get it!!

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What about the people on PA who work full time jobs? I am sooo thankful that we are able to get a little bit of food stamps and medicaid for the kids as DH and I both work full time and still dont make enough to make it without the help. Our gas bill to get back and forward to work alone is 460 a month. If gas had not went up as much as it has in the last 5 years we would not even be on PA. So I guess my question is this................do you think that we should not be allowed to buy snack cakes or a case of pop a momth just because we get food stamps?? Can I not buy my kids a candy bar when we go to the grocery every week? What is so wrong with that? We dont buy a ton of junk but we do treat ourselves. Not everyone on PA is lazy and just collects money from the government!!

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:39 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:55 PM
Except I know for a fact the she purchased the phone and it is on her plan. She has told me this. It's irresponsible. She could get a prepaid phone an budget her money better and she wouldn't need food stamps. I never said everyone abuses the program, but abuse is rampant. Look at the EBT debacle in California. They found the food stamp cards had been used in casinos, strip clubs, an on cruises, to the tune of $10B of taxpayer money. That's why people get upset. And they have every right to be.


Quoting Anonymous:

 Do you ever think there might be reasons people on PA might have nice things? Granted, not everyone. But seriously. Im on some PA. I have a brand new HTC phone, that my grandparents were nice enough to put me on their bill so its cheaper than being on my own. I have a brand new coach purse and wallet, given to me by my mother, and I drive a decent car because my mother was nice enough to get the loan in her name but I make the payments on it. **IF** my phone wasnt on my grandparents plan, if my mother didnt give me her coach purse and wallet, and if she didnt sign the loan for my van, I wouldnt have nice things, because I know how to budget and I couldnt afford to just go out and buy that stuff, but the economy has hit my family really bad. So maybe there is a reason she has a new phone or coach purse or car. dont be so quick to judge


Quoting Anonymous:

Yeah well I work with a woman full time who receives food stamps, but she had a nice brand new car and just got a new galaxy cell phone and coach purse to go with it. Does that piss me off?? Damn right because I'm paying for it while I drive my 16 year old car that's paid for. So sorry I'm responsible with my money. My husband and I have an emergency fund. It's called budgeting.

 


livingrlovesong
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:59 PM

 I never said people don't have a right to be upset. People like that give everyone on PA a bad name, and honestly it pisses me off. If I didnt absolutely need it, I wouldnt have it. I hate it. I hate being on it. Its embarassing. But our lives got turned way upside down. So right now we are doing everything we can. But I constantly get that "Why do you have a coach wallet and a Food Stamp card" looks. Its annoying. But I see where your coming from.

Quoting Anonymous:

Except I know for a fact the she purchased the phone and it is on her plan. She has told me this. It's irresponsible. She could get a prepaid phone an budget her money better and she wouldn't need food stamps. I never said everyone abuses the program, but abuse is rampant. Look at the EBT debacle in California. They found the food stamp cards had been used in casinos, strip clubs, an on cruises, to the tune of $10B of taxpayer money. That's why people get upset. And they have every right to be.


Quoting Anonymous:

 Do you ever think there might be reasons people on PA might have nice things? Granted, not everyone. But seriously. Im on some PA. I have a brand new HTC phone, that my grandparents were nice enough to put me on their bill so its cheaper than being on my own. I have a brand new coach purse and wallet, given to me by my mother, and I drive a decent car because my mother was nice enough to get the loan in her name but I make the payments on it. **IF** my phone wasnt on my grandparents plan, if my mother didnt give me her coach purse and wallet, and if she didnt sign the loan for my van, I wouldnt have nice things, because I know how to budget and I couldnt afford to just go out and buy that stuff, but the economy has hit my family really bad. So maybe there is a reason she has a new phone or coach purse or car. dont be so quick to judge


Quoting Anonymous:

Yeah well I work with a woman full time who receives food stamps, but she had a nice brand new car and just got a new galaxy cell phone and coach purse to go with it. Does that piss me off?? Damn right because I'm paying for it while I drive my 16 year old car that's paid for. So sorry I'm responsible with my money. My husband and I have an emergency fund. It's called budgeting.

 


 

MrsImperfect
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 12:14 AM
Thats not realistic

Quoting Not_A_Native:

 




Quoting MrsImperfect:

My husband has a bachelors degree and only makes $26k a year. It takes time to work your way up to a decent pay. And no he works at a decent place. No McDonald's or walmart or some shit like that either


Quoting Anonymous:


 How about this perspective. The reality is that many people work full time and still need PA. Why? Most of the time because they work for some greedy corporation who is too cheap to pay  above min. wage or for a small business who can not afford to pay a living wage. I have seen women on here say 'I am not on PA and never will be because I work hard!' Yes sweetie because no waitress, retail worker or maid ever worked hard. After all, life is sooo fair that the harder you work the more money you earn right? Then there are the ones who say 'Well, if life is that hard then you need to get an education and then you will not need to use my money to feed your kids' So let's pretend that everyone who struggles does get that education. Who works at Wal-mart? Who bags your fries at the drive-thru? Who cleans your house? Who helps you find just the right dress at JCPenney's. That's right, that same person who got a degree. Now really, with all that education, who is going to be willing to work for minimum wage? So the corporations have to increase wages and then who gets bit in the ass? Everyone, because Mr. CEO sure as heck is not taking a pay cut. Good luck paying 120 dollars for a pair of Levi's and 7 dollars for a bag of Cheetos. It is easier to sit and judge than to be sympathetic to the injustices of our society.


How about people realize that those minimum wage jobs were never meant to raise a family on.  They're   for college kids, high school kids, those trying to make a few extra bucks.


Those trying to raise kids on PA made the mistake of having kids before they could afford them.  Those of us who didn't make that mistake shouldn't have to pay for it.


 

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Not_A_Native
by Ruby Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 12:22 AM

 


Quoting MrsImperfect:

Thats not realistic

Quoting Not_A_Native:

 


 


Quoting MrsImperfect:

My husband has a bachelors degree and only makes $26k a year. It takes time to work your way up to a decent pay. And no he works at a decent place. No McDonald's or walmart or some shit like that either


Quoting Anonymous:


 How about this perspective. The reality is that many people work full time and still need PA. Why? Most of the time because they work for some greedy corporation who is too cheap to pay  above min. wage or for a small business who can not afford to pay a living wage. I have seen women on here say 'I am not on PA and never will be because I work hard!' Yes sweetie because no waitress, retail worker or maid ever worked hard. After all, life is sooo fair that the harder you work the more money you earn right? Then there are the ones who say 'Well, if life is that hard then you need to get an education and then you will not need to use my money to feed your kids' So let's pretend that everyone who struggles does get that education. Who works at Wal-mart? Who bags your fries at the drive-thru? Who cleans your house? Who helps you find just the right dress at JCPenney's. That's right, that same person who got a degree. Now really, with all that education, who is going to be willing to work for minimum wage? So the corporations have to increase wages and then who gets bit in the ass? Everyone, because Mr. CEO sure as heck is not taking a pay cut. Good luck paying 120 dollars for a pair of Levi's and 7 dollars for a bag of Cheetos. It is easier to sit and judge than to be sympathetic to the injustices of our society.


How about people realize that those minimum wage jobs were never meant to raise a family on.  They're   for college kids, high school kids, those trying to make a few extra bucks.


Those trying to raise kids on PA made the mistake of having kids before they could afford them.  Those of us who didn't make that mistake shouldn't have to pay for it.


 


 What's not realistic?  That someone have a job before they have kids?  That minimum wage jobs are filled with those not trying to raise a family?  I dunno - it was like that for years.  People waited to have kids until they could afford them, because they didn't get that "help' and they knew it ahead of time.

MrsImperfect
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 12:49 AM
My husband makes $13 n hr not minimal wage and still a small yearly income. So those facts arent for every person. People have been having kids young for many generations. Waiting until your financially set is ideal but not realistic. Some people just dont have the mental capacity to get decent jobs because no matter what they cant comprehend a certain educational level. They still deserve the right to try and raise a family. Thats the american dream. You take away the help the economy will riot and fall.

Quoting Not_A_Native:

 




Quoting MrsImperfect:

Thats not realistic


Quoting Not_A_Native:


 



 



Quoting MrsImperfect:

My husband has a bachelors degree and only makes $26k a year. It takes time to work your way up to a decent pay. And no he works at a decent place. No McDonald's or walmart or some shit like that either



Quoting Anonymous:



 How about this perspective. The reality is that many people work full time and still need PA. Why? Most of the time because they work for some greedy corporation who is too cheap to pay  above min. wage or for a small business who can not afford to pay a living wage. I have seen women on here say 'I am not on PA and never will be because I work hard!' Yes sweetie because no waitress, retail worker or maid ever worked hard. After all, life is sooo fair that the harder you work the more money you earn right? Then there are the ones who say 'Well, if life is that hard then you need to get an education and then you will not need to use my money to feed your kids' So let's pretend that everyone who struggles does get that education. Who works at Wal-mart? Who bags your fries at the drive-thru? Who cleans your house? Who helps you find just the right dress at JCPenney's. That's right, that same person who got a degree. Now really, with all that education, who is going to be willing to work for minimum wage? So the corporations have to increase wages and then who gets bit in the ass? Everyone, because Mr. CEO sure as heck is not taking a pay cut. Good luck paying 120 dollars for a pair of Levi's and 7 dollars for a bag of Cheetos. It is easier to sit and judge than to be sympathetic to the injustices of our society.



How about people realize that those minimum wage jobs were never meant to raise a family on.  They're   for college kids, high school kids, those trying to make a few extra bucks.



Those trying to raise kids on PA made the mistake of having kids before they could afford them.  Those of us who didn't make that mistake shouldn't have to pay for it.



 




 What's not realistic?  That someone have a job before they have kids?  That minimum wage jobs are filled with those not trying to raise a family?  I dunno - it was like that for years.  People waited to have kids until they could afford them, because they didn't get that "help' and they knew it ahead of time.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Jan. 26, 2013 at 2:57 AM
I don't get it either.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:02 AM

I think people just drink too much HATER- AIDE

momoftwo0406
by Ruby Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:06 AM
It's there to help people who need it not to live on. I do think there should be a time limit of getting benifits but I'd never look down on or judge anyone because they are on it.
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horseap
by Gold Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:25 AM

 I have no problem with people who work and still need a little help.  Youre paying taxes.  Shit happens and times get tough.  What gets me is when people wont work or keep getting pregnant or I get told on here to "Go back to my work so I can make her food stamp money"  >=| 

thetrollcat
by Meow on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:29 AM

Id like to know why people continue to have kids when they can barely afford to stay off PA.

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