There's a girl I've been friends with for almost 10yrs. She's my best friend. We've been through so much together, and our friendship has weathered some really hard times, but it made us closer.
My friend left her husband about 10 months ago. He was cheating, lied, manipulated her, never helped her with anything, and pretty much treated her like she was his slave. He was horrible to her. I was happy to see her leave him, and they divorced several months later.
My friend is now with a guy who is just as bad as her ex, and in some cases worse. I can't stand her boyfriend, and I have no respect for him. Since she started seeing this guy, I rarely see her, and she only calls or texts when he's at work. Once he's home, its like I don't exist to her. I've only called her a couple times knowing he was home, she kept the conversations very short, and practically hung up on me. Now when I hear from her its only because she needs or wants something. DH and I have given her a lot of money, and we're always helping her with something new about once a week.
I don't really want much in return, just her time. I miss hanging out with my best friend. I don't remember the last time she and I hung out together for more than an 15mins or had a phone conversation longer than 5mins. It really hurts because I feel like she sees me as a resource to use rather than a friend. I know it has a lot to do with her boyfriend. I've offered her a way out many times, but she always refuses.
What makes this really hard for me is that she doesn't have anyone else besides me. Please don't bash. I'm a very loyal friend, and always have been, but this is breaking my heart. I've tried talking to her about this many times, but it never does any good. I don't know what to do anymore. Should I stand by her side and stick this out, or is it time for me to move on with my life without her?