Update: I lied on my resume and got the job. Now background check will ruin everything.
WARNING LONG POST!
First let me start off saying that I KNOW lying on my resume is WRONG! Taking it so far as to continue that lie on an application is double wrong! I KNOW! I was desperate, really really desperate! Now I'm feeling extremely guilty and fearful that my employer will find out and fire me. Since the job requires that I relocate my entire family to a city where the cost of living is higher, I'm scared to death that I will get caught and get fired soon after arriving.
The Lie: I stretched out the dates of my employment by 1 year. I actually made it seem like I was still working there. I KNOW, STUPID DECISION! I was NOT getting ANY CALL backs with a resume showing I was not currently working and hadn't worked for a year. Desperation set in after trying for so long, an not seeing any results.
The Reason: When my kids were first born my mom took care of them for in exchange for housing until she one day decided she wouldn't do it anymore. To this day I'm still confused on why she stopped helping us. So I left my job because the cost of daycare for 2 small children was ridiculous and would have taken my entire check every week. I would have been working just to pay a stranger to love on my kids. So for the last year I've been a SAHM. Until...
The Desperation: After leaving my job to take care of our kids, my husband worked 3 jobs just to stay on top of our bills. He was a trooper about it - working everyday of the week - sometimes at all 3 places just to make it. He rarely had a day off. Even if he had a day off from one job he would still have to report to another - so it was very rare for him to have 24 hours off. We were barely making it by each month and then he got laid off from 1 job and 2 months later another job closed for 4 months for remodeling. We were already feeling the pinch of losing job no. 2, so now without job no. 3 we are are really starting to fall apart!
The Plan: For me to get a job, and do whatever it takes to make it work! The hubby and I were going to try tag team parenting until we made enough for daycare or until they start school which is 3 years away . Going on public aid is not an option. I have degree that I worked really hard for and I am not going to become a statistic.
The Outcome: I have a landed a REALLY GOOD job, but now risk losing it because of my untruthfulness. I will say that the guilt and fear over my lie is hurting me more than the rejection of not getting call backs for an intial interview. It's eating me up inside.
The Questions: Have you ever lied on a resume/application to get a job? SAHMs, how hard is it to get a job after making the ultimate sacrifice of leaving a career to raise your kids? Should I fess up to my mistake and risk losing the job for sure? Have any of you ever lied to get the job, got caught or explained the reason for your lie and were able to keep the position? PLEASE LADIES DON'T BEAT me up with your judgements! I'm doing enough of that myself. I am after all a mom just like you, and I would do anything to provide for my family - just like you!
UPDATE: I told them what I had done and my reason for doing it. They were understanding and wanted to complete the background check even after all I told them. I got the job and now my family is moving on to a better financial situation!!!! I definitely learned my lesson and will never put myself through anything like this again. Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement!