October of 2011 I went to go put a note in my df's phone to say Happy Sweetest Day, and instead found texts of him playing with this girl i knew he had been involved with online and such. In this role play, they had said I love you to each other. I was quite upset and confronted him about it. He basically said that he had gotten carried away with the rp, that he did not have those feelings for her, and it wouldn't happen again. I wasn't exactly happy about it, but decided to just try to chalk it up to a misunderstanding, and move on.
Fast forward to July of 2012. I had been randomly looking in his phone, which he knew and hadn't had a problem with, and again found a role play that they were saying i love you. I was heartbroken and very upset. I took a bit of time to think about it, and then confronted him. I had seriously contemplated leaving him over this, but made the choice to try and work it out. We have 3 children he is an amazing father to, and other than this one thing, had always been a great boyfriend/fiance. When i confronted him, he offered to cut all ties with this girl, and did so a few days later. He has given me pretty much full disclosure with his phone, online accounts and such, and I'm pretty sure he has not contacted her since. It still hurts me, and he is still trying to earn back my trust, but we have been working on it together.
Now a few weeks ago she tried contacting him again via text. He told her that she knew they weren't supposed to be talking, ended the conversation, and told me about it. I'm glad he was honest about it, but it bright all those hurt feelings back to the surface and I am now trying to deal with them again. I never talked to this girl after all this went down, but I am now thinking about confronting her, letting her have it, telling her she is never to contact my fiancee again, and seeing if that gives me any closure about the situation.
I know many of you will just tell me to leave. Maybe I'm stupid and naive, but I'm not going to do that. I love this man with all my heart, and I wasn't to get past this and spend the rest of our lives together and raising our kids. If anyone has been through something similar, feel free to give me any tips. I would say no bashing, but I know that won't happen.