How much impulse control should a 4 year old have? She seems to do things and you can see in her eyes that she just can't help herself. She will hit the window for instance (not all the time, but once in a while) She hits it repeatedly and I'll be asking her to stop. She does it two or three times after the words have come out of my mouth. Does it just take that long for her to process what I've said?
Sometimes she just hauls off and hits her brother for no reason. She breaks toys. She doesn't have any anger issues, she doesn't do things out of anger. We have consistent punishment for her, but after she does something she shows no remorse. She will say she's sorry, but she doesn't seem to mean it. She barely gets the words out and she starts talking about something else. "I'm sorry, can we play hide and seek now?"
She has gotten better over the last year in some areas. I am beginning to wonder if this is more than just being 4. Her brother is half her age and he sits much nicer to eat at the table than she does, she's squirming constantly.
An example today is that we were watching TV together on the couch. He brothers foot was out, because he was laying on the couch. His foot was near her, not touching her. She punched his foot as hard as she could out of the blue.
She got a time out and had to apologise to him, hug him and tell him she loved him, but she seemed like it didn't phase her.She hasn't hit him again today but she seems like she has no empathy at all.
Everyone around me says "she's just 4"
Is she "just 4"?