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My step kids won't be getting anything from my late DH

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Question: What would you do?

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I would give them an equal share of the money

I would give them some money

I wouldn't give them any money


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DH died a month ago. He left $750,000 in life insurance. We have a home and 2 cars which are in my name too so of course they go to me. The life insurance policy is set up to go to me. My SK think that they should get part of it. They are both grown, I have 2 kids with my late DH who are 3 and 6 so I feel that money should go to helping to raise them. My DH paid a crazy amount of child support plus took really good care of my step kids, bought them both a car on their 16th birthdays and put them through college (they got scholorships but he paid for everything the scholorships didn't pay plus helped them with living expenses). I feel that have gotten all they need/ should get from their dad already. Their father left them a few trinkets each but as far as money, he left them nothing. My way of thinking is that this money is just to give my children the same things that my late DH already gave my step children.

I know what I am going to do but I just wondered what other's opinions are.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:14 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:23 PM
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I think those kids are just as entitled as your kids.

They were his kids too.

He's a douche nugget for not including them or maybe he assumed you wouldn't be such a selfish bitch and would understand they are his children just as much as your little rug rats.
mstkn.identity
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:23 PM
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I would do trust funds for the younger kids and give the adult kids some too. But that's just me. Sorry for your loss.
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embersparkle
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:23 PM
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Oh wow. He died a month ago and this is how you are behaving about money ?!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:23 PM
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It makes no sense because you don't want to share with them.  I am sure had he lived he would continue to do things with them and their kids, whether they already have kids or will be having them.


Quoting Anonymous:

That makes no sense, if he already provided for them lavishly, then why should they get more? Shouldn't their half siblings get the same that they got?


Quoting Anonymous:

If he provided so lavishly for them then they should get some of the money.





xtwistedxlovex
by Platinum Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:23 PM
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Quoting Anonymous:

They are adults and shouldn't expect anything.

Agreed, as far as money goes. Sentimental items are a different matter. If he had wanted money to go to them, shouldn't he have set that up? I know some parents are actually AGAINST monetary inheritance for adult children and if that's how he felt it would be wrong to give them any.

Lizardannie1966
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:23 PM

I think you should share a little something with them. I would think your late husband would appreciate it if you did.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:23 PM
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Then it's done.  Nothing for you to decide.

Quoting Anonymous:

Yes, it was pretty straight forward, of course the house and cars that are in my name too go to me and the life insurance and everything in the bank accounts go to me. He put in some things for his kids but no money


Quoting MichLW69:

Did he leave a will?





carter210
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:23 PM
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Your DH has 4 kids not just your 2!!

Even if they got all those things they should still get something out of all that money! You're greedy!!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:23 PM
I wouldnt give them anything. u have two young children. And they are adults, they shouldnt expect anything.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:24 PM

He was my children's father too and he has already provided way above and beyond for my step kids. If my kids were grown too, that would be a different story but they aren't.


Quoting atyou:

He was their father. I'd be gracious and generous.

Quoting Anonymous:

My way of thinking is that this money will just help my kids get everything my late DH gave to his children already



Quoting atyou:

I'd share, dude.






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